Tablet time from dinner until bedtime..and in bed

[Overjustlikethat]

Thoughts on this…

Three kids, they have their tablets with them
on the table whilst eating their dinner (at home) then they can play on them until bedtime. Children all have different bedtimes, eldest-11-goes at 10 pm, youngest at 8.30. They can all take their tablets into bed with them for half an hour, then parent takes them away, children usually start to nod off to the tablets.

All children are NT

I can see why this happens because it’s exactly how my kids would like to spend their evenings and it’s a constant battle to keep the to screen time rules, but I wouldn’t allow it. Absolutely no tablets at the table and not in bed either. Dinner time is at the table and we chat about the day/whine about how disgusting the dinner is depending on the dc mood and I try and make sure bed time is story or reading for a little while, however they do get to stay up later and watch tv downstairs at weekends.

But some nights my kids have way too much screen time between dinner and bedtime so I’m definitely not perfect in this regard. Dc 10 will often sneak tablet into bed while I’m reading to littlest one as well so it does happen but it’s not allowed.

Context. If its you or your husband and your kids, I'm happy to weigh in.

If you're slagging off a friend or family member, I'm out.

Whats he AIBU? Aibu to raise my concerns? AIBU to bring up my kids this way? Aibu to start a nasty thread to slag off my sisters parenting?

It’s not me, but I’m also not slagging off, Dh is and I’ve tried explaining to him how hard it may be with three kids (gregarious, energetic kids) and try to understand the situation. I don’t think I’d do it, but only have one dc (gregarious and energetic too) and find that hard enough

My thoughts are that it's absolutely none of my business what rules people set for their own kids, and that your DH should keep his beak out.

This in spades.

Not your DC, not your business.

I don't go as far as the family you describe, but certainly further then I thought I would. Mine often have tables from dinner time until bed, but mine go to bed earlier, so that often only 30m-1h. They also get some tablet time in bed while I get changed, feed pets, lock up or get their sibling sorted (I stay with them until they're asleep and have fallen asleep in the process a number of time, so like to do everything before hand incase I don't get up to do it later)

It's up to their parents, no one else.