Been with my partner for 11 years. We’ve got a little one together. Partner has been very stressed at work (runs his own business). I have always said to him, if he needs to go out after work and social with friends to decompress, that’s fine, just let me know.
Last week, he had a stressful time at work. He called me around 5.45pm to say he was on his way home, by 7pm he wasn’t home. I called him multiple times, no answer. Awful thoughts went through my mind about him being involved in a car accident.
i called his work mate, who answered and said that my partner was sorting out a tenant that had an issue. Okay, fair enough. Text my partner to say that I hope he’s okay and I’ll see him later.
10pm comes around and I call partner again, no answer.. call his work mate, who answers and tells me that they’d finished work about an hour ago and my partner had a “breakdown” about stress at work and they had popped to the pub. I asked said work mate if he could ask my partner to call or text me. He said he would.
Partner still wasn’t back at midnight and I finally fell asleep. I think he got home around 1am.
The next day he was severely hungover. He was in the toilet being sick. I felt something was off and looked at the photos on his phone. There was a photo of one of his work mates with shots at 6.30pm..
So I found out that not only did my partners work mate flat out lie to me, my partner never once thought to call or text to say he needed to decompress and go out and he didn’t contact me once.
I didn’t even react angrily, just felt sad and disappointed. He apologised but he hasn’t done anything to make it up to me. His work mate hasn’t apologised to me either. Apparently they are both embarrassed and neither of them know why they did what they did.
AIBU to feel unloved? He must not have thought of me once and he had gone on his phone to take photos and videos.