To be annoyed with little lies

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My partner is evasive about little everyday things. I’m really quite fed up with it as I don’t see the point. It feels unnecessary to me and makes me question what else he isn’t open and up front about.
an example is a work event that he may or may not be going to, he never seems to know what any arrangements are and won’t be clear.
its about things that really don’t matter.
I don’t understand why he can’t be straight about every day life.
Things that I would just mention without thinking about.
I wouldn’t mind so much normally but we are on the verge of a big financial commitment in which I am contributing the most and it is making me uncomfortable that he isn’t honest with small things.
AIBU?

Why do you remain with him then? I don't think I'd be comfortable with someone so evasive (at best).

@fiddlesticks81 I guess lies, such as saying they are going to one event when actually going to a different one altogether

@fiddlesticks81 3 years

@fiddlesticks81 no not quite and that is an entirely different matter. My ex husband was violent and sexually abusive.

Is he telling white because he is scared of your reaction possibly/or thinks you wouldn't agree with what he is doing? Some people lie to people please, and try to keep everyone happy.

Hi op, it doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. I would definitely not commit to something financially with someone you are having doubts about. Why is the bulk of the commitment yours? Can you tell us more about this as I'd be concerned that you're getting into another tricky relationship.

I would never go in financially with someone I didn't trust completely. If they lie about the little things they will lie about the big things. Huge flashing neon red flag.

You are being evasive with not spelling out the truth of his character.
He is a LIAR.

Pure and simple.
You are out of your mind to become involved financially with a LIAR.
Was one abusive man not enough for you?

Wake up to the fact this is not a healthy relationship.
Protect yourself.
LIARS are awful partners.
NEVER to be trusted.
Dump.

Are you about to buy a house? Please don't financially commit yourself with a liar.

Do you have watertight legal protection in place to secure your financial contribution? I don't find liars or bullshitters attractive, and certainly would not risk my finances on one.

No one is 100% honest all the time, but he sounds habitually dishonest, which doesn’t bode well. I dated a man like this once -never again. I should have left him after the first lie, because there were a plenty more where that came from. He also wouldn’t take responsibility for his actions - another red flag.

Ime you accept the little lies because At Least He Isn't Abusive.. In time your self esteem will be chipped away still
... Throw this one back and of it's a house please please don't do it.... When me and ex bought a house he mentioned when the dc had left home we could get a bungalow... I shuddered... No ta. Divorced a year later.. He isn't The One op. Don't settle for less than a good and honest man.

Does he do it when your with other people? Or does he do it to other people? Be observant and see how he behaves with other people and how he behaves towards you when other people are there.

Just watch and wait for a while.

That’s a red flag. My ex was a narc (I know this term is used loosely but with this man there is no doubt).. my first induction something was wrong was silly little lies, he contradicted himself. His inability to answer a question, lack of accountability when pulled up on this and no reassurance when I was concerned about where all these lies were heading for us. Please think about the signs because if he is do not carry on with him. They love vulnerable woman who have been previously hurt. I ruined 5 years of my life and the healing is brutal

Dealing with the same problem. I’m genuinely at a loss