DS 4 and issues with clothes. Help!!!?

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DS 4 has been funny about clothes since about 2 yrs old. It coincided with potty training so thought maybe he didn't want to wear trousers for fear of accidents but here below is a list of issues he has -
Won't wear anything fleecey or soft
Will only wear short sleeve tops
Will only wear shorts never trousers
Will roll anything long up to expose arm and legs so they are not covered. Same for jackets.
Won't wear anything if it gets even a tiny bit wet
Strips off and takes all clothes off when we get home - even at other people's houses too
Would rather be naked then wear clothes at home

It was his first day of school today and he walked by a puddle and got wet. Instantly starts whaling when he gets into school he starts taking of his clothes. Luckily I had spares. All the other kids were wet and not behaving this way.

Now it is starting to affect his day to day life and interactions I feel. AIBU are all kids a bit like this or do I need to be looking into it/for support?

Sensitivity to textures can go hand in hand with ASD or dyspraxia.
Any other unusual behaviours?

This was my dd. Later diagnosed Audhd.

@TeenToTwenties I'm not sure what else I'd be looking for tbh. He is sociable and has great speech etc. I wonder if you can have these sensitivities without the SEN

So was mine. Would talk to anyone.

Still got a diagnosis.

Motor skills?

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow what were the other signs?

All good. Except one thing is that he spreads his fingers apart and walks around like this when he gets food or sand or anything on them and keeps them all separately open if that makes sense. It's like he doesn't like anything on his hands either

Meltdowns at home. What we thought of as naughty or difficult but looking back would have been anxiety driven.

She refused hat coat gloves long sleeves and long trousers.

She wasn’t diagnosed until 16 1/2 as she seemed NT. very sociable and friendly.

We were asked that thing about hands at her assessment.

That's interesting. Does your dd it too? Did they explain what it was? I mean these are the only two concerns really the clothes and the hands. I wonder if that would be enough for a referral or diagnosis of some sort?

Mine is almost exactly the opposite, loves soft textures, hates short sleeves and shorts though would cope with the wet clothing. I didn't suspect ASD for ages as was very verbal and the sensory issues seemed somewhat isolated signs. We definitely get meltdowns and extreme emotions. You could try the book raising a sensory smart child which explains some aspects and has ideas for what to do though isn't the easiest read. I would say talk to school and maybe see if you can see an occupational therapist - that the most helpful for us with sensory issues

She couldn’t stand anything on her hands. Was always asking to wash off anything.

This is helpful I will look into the book. Do you mind me why it is a hard read? Are there some potential issues regarding their future flagged or just the format/style of writing? Does your child have ASD or just sensory issues. Oh he hates the hoover too. Just remembered. I don't want to put him in the ASD box just yet but obviously want to seek relevant support too..

Totally sounds like a sensory disorder which may or may not be linked with autism. My ds had very similar behaviours and was diagnosed with both plus ADHD at age 8. He was also very verbal and quite sociable.

My twin nephews were a nightmare with clothes, they had two sets of one tracksuit and that was all they would wear, even in the summer. The nursery kept telling the mother they were getting hot but they refused to wear anything else.

When they put it on in the morning they would scream because as it had been washed the trouser cuffs had got a little tight so I would have to pull them apart and stretch them to make them less tight. It was later discovered they have mild Asperger's. The one twin grew out of his clothing sensitivities but the other didn't for a while and had to wear a long sleeve cycling shirt under his school shirt for years because he didn't like the feel of the school shirt.

All my girls have had issues with clothing. 2 are diagnosed with ASD now (diagnoses at 11 and 15) and one is on the waiting list.

The one on the waiting list was so bad that I used to carry her in with her socks and shoes in my hands and say 'I couldn't get these on.' When she was 3, I said 'If you can show me why they're bad, I'll take your t-shirts out of your drawer.' She went through them and told me every line, ruffle, hem and seam that irritated her. She was left with 4 tshirts that were 'ok'.

Mine too. Very sociable, very chatty. Still autistic!

My son, exactly the same, maybe more so, would only wear pants in the house and garden and at houses I knew they wouldn't mind.
We just went with it, the school knew, fortunate enough to be in a very small class.
He grew out of it, wasn't the slightest bit ASD nor any other sensory problem in that way, he is Deaf.
Not every quirk is a sensory problem.
He is a man man now and has happily worn clothes for many years.

You can also have sensory processing disorder/difficulties without ASD etc although usually they go hand in hand

Yes they can. My younger daughter and her eldest son were just like this until they were about 7 years old.
Both are nt

Really appreciate your reply. He is usually fine if we explain why he can't take off wet clothes or if we really press him to put on the trousers on. Therefore if it was something SEN related surely the meltdown would persist. I don't know. Obviously I am open to all perspectives hence the post. I just hope he grows out of it

Mine is 10 and still strips butt naked as soon as he gets home, hates long sleeves, wet clothes and having crap all over his hands. He's NT.

Normal. DD is the same and completely NT. I was the same at that age. Wouldn’t wear tights or leggings/trousers.

Haha 😂 made me laugh. Glad I'm the only one dealing with hometime nakedness. His brother is the exact opposite and won't take anything off at all 😅

My brother struggled with fabric textures and luckily was not made to wear items that bothered him, but, as soon as he was in the home environment he would strip off and walk around in shorts. He was always on the move too and used to eat his jumper cuffs and blankets, which is connected to sensory overload. The jumper eating stopped at about 6, the nakedness never did!