To tell another child to stop

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You're at a playground, your child is waiting patiently to use a piece of equipment and the child currently using it keeps coming up to your child and shoving them away. You can hear the parent calling the child's name as a result but neither does the child stop nor does the parent come over to intervene.

AIBU to tell the other child to stop myself? Both children are 2.

I have done if one was shoving/hitting/pushing my DS. Definitely as a toddler as they can't really stand up for themselves.

i'd probably speak to the parent first... if that didn't work i'd use gentle words and point out shoving is wrong.

you do have to wonder why this child is shoving yours when yours is simply stood waiting patiently?

Admittedly I'm not the best with confrontation myself, but they were of a different nationality, on the other side of the playground and in a large group (of parents) so I didn't approach the parent.

The other child then began to follow my child around the playground and attempt to shove them with zero provocation. 🤷‍♀️

"Ohhhhh, we don't push, you'll hurt Jimmy" and death stare.

I would probably loudly but cheerfully say let 'child's name' have a go now, or let's take it in turns. A 2 year old is unlikely to disobey another adult.

Yes, I would block them from my kid and tell them no. Don’t care about the parent.

I'd stand with my child and block them with a "no pushing, it isn't nice" comment.

Or...tell the kids mum that if little johnny pushes my child again I will come over there and push her.

Depending on how useless other parent was being/how long it had gone on for.

Just get your child to play with something else

The child playing with the toy should be able to play with it as long as he likes without another DC waiting and staring the whole time

I’m very stern. My kids think nothing of it, everyone else’s kids cry as soon as I use a firm voice.

A toddler pushing my kid would get a firm voice and if it made them cry I’d suggest to the parent that they supervise their child more closely.

Obviously the shoving bit isn't on and needs to be dealt with

But you need to deal with your own child who is being very annoying by standing over the other child constantly whilst he's playing

So you expect a 2 year old to stop playing on something he's enjoying so your DC can go on it instead

Have a word with yourself

No one expected the child already on it to move off, that's precisely why my child was waiting. When you're queuing to use a till in the supermarket, is it that you are expecting someone to abandon their shopping mid way for you to scan your stuff or are you simply waiting your turn?

You purposely twisted this when, presuming you're not socially illiterate, you also actively engage in turn taking in many areas of life...

I would stop a child from hurting another and would physically block them from doing it if necessary.

I would have been vocal at the first push- "Uh Uh, that's not friendly, gentle hands". Or something. Maybe just "No, thank you" if you think they don't speak English.
Not shouting but using an assertive teacher voice rather than a sing song fun voice.

If they pushed again, I would body block them, physically put myself I'm between the children and call their parent over, "excuse me, I think your little one is getting a bit upset. They might need some mummy time".

I don't feel your child was doing anything wrong by standing and waiting patiently. This is very normal for an activity where only 1 child can do it at a time, like a swing. If I see another child waiting I will say to mine, '1 more minute then this little girl would like a turn'. It's really important to model turn taking, at 2 children are unlikely to understand this yet, so we need to model behaviours we would like to see in them. If it's in a public place like a park, it's everyone's equipment to share, and monopolising isn't fair, it's teaching children that others needs don't matter.

As other have said, I would say firmly 'please don't hit my child, that hurts them'. It's polite and clear. If they won't stop then unfortunately you have to walk away, you cannot physically intervene.

Oh, looks like the other kid's mum is here too....