To cancel DDs party this Sunday?

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DD is 3 and we’re having a party for her in 2 weeks time. Have spent about £1000 on venue hire, entertainment etc.

Originally had 25 kids confirmed as coming and this has now dropped down to 9.

Should we cancel?

IABU - no don’t canxel
YANBU - cancel

@leopardski yes I think I know too

it will be a great party OP don’t worry, and ignore all the posters bitching about the cost, if you can afford it, the fact that it can be done for less is irrelevant

9 is a great number op, plenty of opportunity to play on the equipment you've hired without risk of injury.

My DD was 21 last Saturday, we had decades of people cancelling. This year pizza delivery at home. I think end of holidays, new school year makes people flakey.

Colin has become a family tradition for us, even the 19 year old still expects one 😁

9 is enough for a 3 year olds party. I’d learn from it. And scale down ideas for 4th birthday, but don’t cancel this one. Enjoy her, and her little buddies .

That's a really mean reaction to someone who has reached out for help.

I organised a 21st birthday party for my son. Venue, food, decorations, and a FREE BAR only came to just over a thousand pounds! You must be mad!

Don’t cancel. Your DD will have a great time as will your family. Ten is often an average size for a party. Like PP have said, you can always round up some other children. If you let parents bring siblings just be mindful too many older ones may change the dynamic.

If you can't get a refund, then what on earth is the point of cancelling?!

Agree that comment was mean. I wouldn’t spend that much myself and it sounds like OP wouldn’t with hindsight but some comments here are out of proportion. All OP is ‘guilty of’ is spending money she or her DP presumably earned, to give 25 (albeit it less) children a happy experience.

Most (only just!) 3 year olds will enjoy a party with 10 kids a million times more than a party with 25. Shes so tiny. Even if she is a MASSIVE extrovert 25 guests is a bit overwhelming. Have a lovely party. It will be so much better on a bouncy castle without 25 kids falling about.

Well it is true though isn't it.

OP wouldn't in hindsight because she now has more sense, all that money didn't buy friendship... and bragging about spending thousands (out of the blue when no one asked and for no reason) is, in general life, just classless.

Absolutely insane amount of money on a child's birthday party

Don’t cancel. Similar situation with me - you could message the ones coming saying that siblings are welcome. Also maybe invite some last minute people? We had 10 come to ours and actually was nice as DD wasn’t intimated by the noise and numbers. Had invited about 20 too, and had some rude enough not to show up after RSVPing yes (also count on that!)

Go ahead with it. You’ll all have a great time. Also if you want to spend a £1000 on a party then bloody good luck to you. It’s no one else’s business what you do with your money.

If there's no refund then why cancel. Go ahead invite siblings and open it up to parents etc or those vague friends you never got around to inviting. Heck neighbours if you speak to them.
And for those saying 3 yr old party blah blah....every parent makes that mistake at least once- usually with first - usually this young and you learn , OP got her lesson and get it's no need to make her feel even worse. Op these all class pstties are best saved for yr 1 when they'll be with their classmates for a few years. But equally I'd now always opt for spending that money on a day out even treating a few friends alongside on day out etc. Much more enjoyable and changes it up for the kids.

I think I got my son his first Colin for his 18th!

Poor OP. She committed the ultimate MN sin…admitting you got off your arse and did ok for yourself. I hope your daughter enjoys her day OP.

I think that ship may have sailed already, OP.

Aww at that age 9 little ones will feel lots! But u still have 2 weeks so can ask nursery class or others if you want more numbers?

you should definitely go ahead and it’ll be fabulous!

If you can't say something nice, always better to say nothing.

This

Ps ignore people saying it will be OTT. Frankly people won’t know how much you spent on balloons and decor (agreed from me that it was an overspend). Most parties at halls cost a few hundred quid and cakes cost between 60-150 depending on what you are getting. X

‘Look like’ to who though?

With £250 on balloons??? 😂😂😂 that’s insane OP! What a total waste of money. My kids don’t really remember much about when they were 3. Bet all the other parents will be jealous though which is probably what you’re aiming for.