Am I over reacting to this?

[Kaybayx]

Hey ladies so basically me and my bf have been together for 6 months now. We've met each other parents (which some people may think that's abit too soon, I'm aware) we both have kids from previous relationships, I have 1 he has 2. Everything is going well except for his kids mum. Now this is where I think I'm over reacting so it seems to be that every time we're with each other they are texting and I mean every single time. On the weekend they was texting/voice noting each other at 2am. Like what? Obviously they have to text other the kids but 2am?? It was nothing to do with the kids either, I heard one of the voicenotes from her but then he turnt the volume down so I couldn't hear the rest. The other thing is they still go out together on days out with the kids, the oldest is 10. Am I over reacting to this or is this normal? Because I don't text my child's father at 2am nor do we go on days out together.
For abit of context they broke up 4 months before we got together I don't know if that's relevant or not haha. Honestly I think I just feel 2nd best to his ex.

If how they do things doesn't t work for you then walk away.

Co-parenting means she's going to be around for many many years and they obviously have a set up that works for them, but not for you (understandably) so save yourself the heartache and run

I don't think days out with the kids are weird, I think that's great and very mature. I think 2am is weird, unless perhaps one of them works shifts and that's the time that makes sense as they've just finished work/just getting up etc.

He’s got no business dating anyone if his primary relationship is with his ex. Chatting at 2am is ridiculous. He’s not worth your time and he won’t change because he doesn’t want to.

Days out wouldn’t bother me, he’s still father to them. 2am messaging would unless it was an emergency. That’s crossing a line.

Co-parenting doesn’t require 2am voice notes.

Run now OP, before you get further enmeshed.

This. You’ve only been together a few months, you’re not happy with the amount of interaction he has with his ex, she won’t be going anywhere because they’re co-parenting, so just end things. Find someone who has a co-parenting set up that suits you, or no children.

This man isn't ready for another relationship. He's not emotionally available.

2am voice notes take the piss. I'd walk away from this one. He's not respecting you.

There are three of you in this relationship.
I’d walk.
No, actually, I’d RUN

Save yourself a lot of heartache.
Too much too soon.
He is not ready for a healthy new relationship.
He is still emotionally involved in his old relationship.
You and your children will be collateral damage in this.
Walk away.

Bun him off, it’s all too soon. You know it was too fast for him to have moved on when they had only be spilt for 4 months. Stop wasting your time

The occasional day out with the kids is fair enough.

The chatting at 2am isn't something I'd be keen on.

I agree with the ladies before me. The odd day out with the kids isn't too wierd but texting at 2am (unless little Johnny is in A&E) is totally bizarre. He is obviously still enmeshed with his ex and that won't work for you so let him go.

Having been in this exact situation myself, I would suggest it’s possible that unfortunately one (or both) may not be over the other.

Contact when there are children involved is necessary but what you’re talking about is definitely excessive, there’s no reason she should be messaging him late/in the middle of the night except for in an emergency.

You need to have a serious, honest discussion with your partner and if he insists this is the only way he wants to co-parent then you need to decide if it’s something you’re willing to put up with long-term.