Just looking to get opinions on my mother and her lack of boundaries when it comes to my life.
Without going into much detail, I had a very difficult childhood, my mother was very absent emotionally for various reasons. Reasons which I understand as an adult but had a massive affect on me as a child and my future relationships. I dealt with all this through therapy and never had it out with my mum as I felt she had suffered a lot during her life and now that's she's getting on in years, I didn't want to cause her hurt. My relationship with her was loving but conditional to both of us not being too close and I guess me staying in my lane, conforming to what she thought was a way to live.
As a young adult, my mother had plenty opinions on my romantic life, in my view overstepping her boundaries with me and upsetting me greatly. I made plenty of mistakes but I was growing up and in bad need of therapy from my childhood. I've since had years of therapy and I'm now a very different, emotionally mature person.
I've recently decided to split with my narcissist husband. My mother went mad. Told me I've made a mess of my life, I've no cop on, wasted my life with my ex, I don't know what I'm doing, if he's not beating you then what's wrong with you, what about your children, you're selfish etc, disclosed private medical information to the wider family.
I'm hurt but I see it for what it is. In the past it would have floored me. I so wish I had the unconditional support of my mum, I don't and I never have. I am not speaking to her now yet I worry about her as she's elderly.
AIBU? What would you do if your mum was like this?