Would you say this is an achievement?

[AutumnalNights]

To meet someone who is able to fulfill you with everything you wouldn't be able to do alone? Such as -
Buying a property and going on lots of expensive days out and holidays that the partner is able to financially provide ?

Just reading a thread on another forum which has got me thinking.

So is the question actually “is it an achievement to find a wealthy partner”?

Surely it would be luck rather than achievement?

I think it's an achievement to find an equal partner. Someone prepared to share everything, act as part of a team and respect you. Throw in a good sense of humour, lashings of chemistry and attractive and I'd put my feet up.

What if I bought a property and go on holidays without a partner?

Nope.

No, bagging yourself a rich bloke isn’t an achievement.

I think it is, it's an achievement to meet someone and build a life together. Just because someone doesn't financially contribute doesn't mean they haven't contributed in other ways to build that life together

No.

I was reading about a single woman who felt judged as she didn't have all what her married friend has. Yet people were replying saying 'Your friend chose to focus on her personal relationship rather than her work. This is an achievement.'
I don't think this way at all. Why would I admire someone just because she had the luck of finding a partner and one which spoils her, and enables her to lead a lovely life ? Odd way of thinking.

It's partly luck. Also partly good judgement.

No.

I think achievement is the wrong word..but I have a single friend and married friends. I'd say vast majority of those who are married made a really conscious effort to meet someone. They dated lots in their twenties and prioritised meeting someone. My long term single friend really avoided all of this and focused on other aspects of her life. I actually think if someone wants a relationship they should approach it like they're trying to find a job.

Absolutely not an achievement and most of it is sheer luck. I would hate to only have things because someone else bought them for me.

It's not an achievement but I agree with pervious poster who said it's part luck/part good judgement. Also some people do actively try find a partner. I did myself at 25, seems so young now!! But I met my now husband within 6 months....

Sugar daddy or man with tons of money. Good luck.

I don’t think so but it depends what the goal was in the first place. It’s a bit sad to make the goal finding a provider as it indicated an inability to provide for yourself. Unattractive to many but not all clearly.

I wouldn't describe it as 'an achievement' any more than I'd describe winning the lottery as 'an achievement'. It's essentially just good luck.

Yes, I would agree that it's not an achievement. It's good luck, and I think people who are lucky should acknowledge that rather than being defensive and pretending that they worked for whatever their stroke of luck was.

Not an ‘achievement’, no.

On one hand it is luck but long, successful relationships take nurturing and attention – so that part is an achievement.

As much of an achievement as it is for a bloke to find a nymphomaniac.

I mean, yay, congratulations if that's what you're looking for, but it's a shallow 'accomplishment'.

I'm not sure it's an "achievement" as such, but if you're the kind of person who doesn't mind being the lower earner or accepting gifts from others then it's a little life bonus, I guess.

For me, I hate being reliant on other people for money, but I accept that's my problem.

I wouldn't necessarily think of either marrying a rich partner or earning the same money oneself as an achievement. But if the people concerned are happy with their setups, I'm pleased for them.

I would consider it an achievement to do these things off my own back, not riding on someone else's.