To think that this is just not good enough

[SoonToBePinocchiosExWife]

My Stbxh and I separated in April. He said it was a trial separation, which I didn't argue with as by this point I just couldn't face any more confrontations. In July he moved out. 100 miles away. DS is only 5 and misses his dad very much. Since he left, he has had him for 2 weekends and seen him for 2 days at home. He now isn't sure if he will be able to have him for his next scheduled weekend next weekend. He's given me a grand total of £50 since leaving and shows no inclination to contribute to any of his expenses.
Before we got married, in fact right from the beginning of our relationship he insisted that if he ever had kids he'd be there for them, as his dad wasn't. He seems to still be presenting himself as father of the Year and seems to think that he'll just be able to swan back in after a year or so and pick up where he left off. AIBU to think that he is bang out of order, and that this is just not good enough?
(this is final nail, got the right ick!)

I’m sorry OP, it’s about as far from good enough as it is possible to get. He is an absolute cunt.

Maintenance, generous maintenance should be garnished from wages or benefits and if not paid then hard labour and passport and driving licence removed. Behaviour like this is so damaging and absolutely nothing gets done about it, it sickens me.

CMS claim.

Change locks.

He needs to grow up.

Yes he is.
Am gobsmacked that he could think that this is ok. I'd always imagined that deadbeat dads just didn't understand how to be a good father, or didn't realise what it would take. Naively thought he wouldn't dare do this to his child as he'd be too afraid of the damage done to his image. And yet, here we are.

He resigned from his job in June.

Given we're not spring chickens, I feel he may be running out of time for your last option!

I agree!

There’s only one thing worse than an absent deadbeat father - a present father who is abusive and cruel.
This is horrible for you and your son, OP but you are well rid. Get CMS involved no matter how small the amount of support will be. I’m sorry this is happening to you.

I don't think I have any choice really.

If my son ends up like him, I'll have failed at being a mother. My father did the same to me, his father did the same to him. I so desperately didn't want my child to go through it. Probably why I put up with so much crap.

Does anyone have any idea of what a reasonable amount of child maintenance would be? On the government website it seems to suggest that if I don’t know his income, then it's £7 a week. Am quite shocked at that. And how on earth do I find out what income he has?

What’s his job and region? Employed or self employed? Were you entitled to child benefit or over the £60k limit? Someone will know roughly the right salary you can enter

I don't know what his job is, but he's not self employed anymore (failed business). Probably minimum wage as he has minimal qualifications. I get child benefit and small amount of universal credit topping up wages from 2 jobs. And he's in the Midlands I think.