He talks about his ex… alot

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I met a guy online who’s nice looking, charming, makes me laugh, he’s very open about fancying me, he’s asked me out again….but he’s half way though his divorce! And he does talk about his ex a lot and what they are doing about finances etc! I do like him, but I don’t want to talk about his ex! He said they broke up over a year ago but I find it odd that he wants to talk about her! It’s random things like how their relation ended, how unreasonable she can be, what she does for work, why he things the cheated etc. Am I an arse for not wanting to hear it?

Clearly still not over her my love x

Have you told him that you've no desire to discuss his ex wife?
& do you ever refer to your exes?

reminds me of when the late Princess Diana said
“Well, there were three of us in this marriage so it was a bit crowded”.

sorry, OP x

Agree that it sounds like he isn't over her. I used to be with a man who was going through a divorce and he would bring her up all the time. Mainly to tell me what she did wrong or insulting her. Red flag imo

I don't want to sound horrible but I definitely think you should give this one a miss. It's so clear he is nowhere near being over his ex. I'd honestly end it now before there's a chance you could get hurt

Sorry if I misunderstood but did she cheat on him? He's probably still hurt

He's not ready for a new relationship. Move on.

If you can't voice this to him then it's not a real relationship anyway, as you're not being yourself. & You surely must know, without having to ask strangers, that a man talking to you about his ex constantly, especially a man going through a divorce..!won't make for a good partner. You're a diversion for him, at best.

Married men are not emotionally available. Move on. Don't be daft enough to be his rebound.

No I don’t talk about my ex. I got divorced years ago and I honestly don’t think or talk about him. I understand that a divorce is hard and I would support a friend though it but I’m not there to give a guy free counselling through it. Yesterday he told me on the phone how much he was prepared to give his ex in the divorce when the house sells, it’s really personal stuff!
He does think she’s cheated and I think she possibly did but it’s done now either way

I’d pass this one by. He is still going through a divorce and is still angry / hurt / getting over his ex.

This is too much info too soon. You don’t need to or want to know about him and his soon to be ex wife financial situation.

You’re not a marriage / divorce counsellor.

This won’t be a short term thing. So I would let him get through his divorce and you find someone else. You might find he isn’t ready for love anyway, maybe a distraction from the divorce. You don’t want to be his Guinea pig

You are free/cheap therapy for him.
Don't be used by him.
Dump.

I think this is spot on.

Do the same next time you see him.