Aibu to make them go to bed

[Gimmeabreak2025]

On holiday with mixed age of kids, early 20, mid teen and 10 year old.

20 something very drunk, wants his two younger siblings to stay in bar with him while he continues drinking. Its midnight and we need to get up in about 4 hours to get ready to catch coach to get our flight.

20 something having a tantrum saying it’s menopause and I’m ruining everyone’s lives, youngest is crying teen is busy hating me.

So aibu to not leave my two younest in care of very drunk 20 something hours before having to get up, incidentally he hasn’t now, but has previous for getting the teen shots and getting them drunk…

yabu it’s their last night they’re having fun let them stay up
yanbu they should go to bed

What kind of parent would leave underage children in the care of a drunk sibling whoever you are in the world? Parent your children, you're not their friend.

why on earth would let any adult ply your teen with alcohol?! Why would you let your 10 year old be in a bar at midnight?!

Your ten year old should have been in bed hours ago. If mid teen means 17/18 I’d let them stay up and give them no sympathy tomorrow, any younger and definitely off to bed now!

Thank you they’re in their room it’s just been a struggle getting them there and it’s nice to have confirmation I’m not crazy or unreasonable

Up late as a family due to shows

What they said ☝️

I'd leave the 20 something, if they have a hangover that's their fault. Very much depends on the age of the teen (17 and 13 are very different here), but the 10 year old absolutely needs to go to bed.

@Gimmeabreak2025

you did the right thing.

Does the 20 yo go shite still live at home?

he wouldn't anymore if he was mine, or you'll have the other 2 going completely off the rails.

Teen needs to be told to mind their lip & have some respect.

10 year old needs to be reassured & treat like a 20 year old.

Good luck tomorrow!!

Bedtime for all concerned. Up for coach in 4 hours, and you will have to bear the brunt of this. God no wonder you are raging. Every sympathy for you, I have not had exactly the same, but oldest son is 8 years older than 3 younger children, heavy drinker and playing "Mr Popular" on my dime. And, I would add, that I have never ever done it again. Good luck for tomorrow xx

20yo if still at home wouldn't be for much longer. A serious apology would be expected. To be giving their sibling alcohol, and being arsey about wanting 'company' when drinking- absolutely not. I do see how this is even a question.

Thank you :) so far he’s acting like nothing happened…. However I think he’s still drunk. To add insult to injury a huge storm kept us awake last night and out the power out so no air conditioning and we got no sleep!

So far he’s still drunk…. So no apology forthcoming, it was a long night…. Seriously considering his living arrangements as this bad behaviour isn’t a one off

I can’t believe what I have read. You have had a child and a teen in a bar for long enough for your 20yo to be hammered. Then, you were questioning whether you should follow your belligerent drink 20yo instruction to go to bed leaving your other young child and teen with them in the bar. Also, adding that you know your 20yo gives their younger siblings alcohol. Also, meanwhile letting your drunk 20yo abuse you calling you menopausal etc, however, honestly with the rest you have written this doesn’t even raise my eyebrows in comparison.

You needed to come to an internet forum to ask whether to just go to bed leaving your kids with a drunk sibling in a bar or not. Reflect on that.

Eek, sending caffeine and patience your way OP. What a crap end to your holiday ☹️

I have an mid 20s step son, a young teenager and a 10yr old. Eldest is frequently drunk or hungover so we've now told him we don't want the younger two to see him like that as its not nice and is worrying them. Luckily he doesn't live with us, but if he did it wouldn't be for much longer...

He’s given your teenager shots before? He’d be out on the street and never getting access to his siblings again, wtf.

It's completely normal for ten (and younger ) to be up at 10pm on holiday. I'm guessing they are watching the family entertainment not in a nightclub!

But yes of course they needed to go back with you. I'd be having a word this morning with your eldest.

Presumably this will be the last holiday with your eldest.

Wtf.

You're as limp as cooked spinach.

Teenager could be 18 or 19. op hasn’t given the ternagers age.