DM booked last minute holiday when DC2 due

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DC2 is due in 2 weeks time (planned section). DM was insistent on having DC1 when I am in hospital. She has sprung it on me today that her and DSF have decided to book a last minute holiday for that week so we need to make alternative arrangements.

We don’t have any other family locally that can help but thankfully my best friend has stepped in and will look after DC1 for a couple of days.

I am not entitled and do not expect anything from her (quite the opposite, she is incredibly selfish and hard work so I try keep her at arms length) but to push to have DC1 then let us down with such short notice and be so blasè about it has really annoyed me. AIBU?

So sorry to hear this op.
Glad your friend is helping out.
Yanbu, your mum sounds difficult.
Don't feel like you owe her anything going forward. It's fine to establish boundaries to safeguard yourself from her bullshit.
Look after yourself and take the time this next 2 weeks to relax a bit before the big day

My DM and DF went to Australia for the entirety of my 8th and 9th month of pregnancy for DC #2. Normally, she looked after DC #1 twice a week and had them over night once a week.

They knew i was struggling being pregnant with a toddler. They decided that was then was the best time to go. They also asked me to go over to their house and water the plants twice a week while they were away.

Some parents are there to help, some are there to teach us how not to parent.

Good luck OP.

Thank you for your kind words @KezzaMucklowe 💕

Sorry to hear that and wow the audacity when you were heavily pregnant!

Spot on with teaching us how not to parent!

To offer and pressure you to agree then do this is so bloody awful, she obviously resents being a parent herself so no doubt she'll be a poor grandmother.
You can't count on her so I would just not bother to ask her again.
Sorry she's been shit.