To think this is more than enough for a single parent?

[CrinkleToes]

I am posting as I really don’t know if I am being unkind to my sibling or whether my feelings are warranted.

She is a single parents to one dc. Her take home salary is just under 4K. Her ex pays for nursery and also gives her 400 a month for other expenses.

She is constantly asking my mum for money to top up her income. I am fortunate that I have dh and lots of practical support from his family too which means I don’t need to use nursery. We also have one dd who is 3. I have chosen to be a stay at home mum and do recognise that my sister does not have this option.

My mum is very stressed about being asked for money every month and has confided in me that although she has the money it is basically eating into inheritance bit by bit as she is now retired. I do not get any hand outs from her and never do.

I feel conflicted as on the one hand I know it must be bloody hard work as a single parent but equally I can’t understand how she needs top ups on that income? It basically means she is getting inheritance early. Am I being a dick? Would you let this go? I haven’t told DH as I know he would say it is totally unfair on me and of course I know he would be biased anyway.

Your mum clearly isn't happy, which is fair enough. She needs to start saying no, or help her budget.

You talking of your sister eating away at your inheritance is also pretty distasteful though.

Seems you both see your poor mum as a cash machine.

If your mum doesn't want to give her any more money she needs to tell her no. She needs to stop talking to you behind her back and you need to not get involved. It really is between the two of them. The money its eating into isn't 'inheritance'. Your mum is still alive so it's simply her money at this point and she needs to spend it or not as she chooses.