Is it over?

[Kimcat1]

I already know what I need to do, so not sure why I'm posting really but here goes. Currently coming to the end of maternity leave. Had saved up what I could to help but have had to spend the savings to get by each month. Husband is sitting with a very healthy savings account and makes 3 times more than me at his job (will be more than that now as I'm going part time). We also have no physical relationship (not through my lack of trying, but I've given up as I cannot take being rejected anymore. I've spoken to him about both of these subjects before. Honestly so done.

So the money he is earning is not being used to support you while you are caring for his child? I assumed you had a discussion around this before you got pregnant?

Yup, you'll see more of that money after you divorce! Silly man.

Sorry, but I can't understand these situations. In the marriage ceremony, you basically say "what's yours is mine and what's mine is yours." That means financially, emotionally, practically, to me.

You are supposed to be building a family unit to support you both, and now your child too.

I don't understand how there can be a "healthy savings account" and "no savings" at the same time. It's not just how do you put up with this. It's how can a man who's supposed to love you put up with this?

This is a big reason for many divorces - sad to say, but you'll get a much more equal share once you separate and the law takes over.

It doesn't sound great but there's not much detail. I did have a friend who used most of her savings while on maternity leave. I was absolutely shocked since it was obviously her husband's kid she was looking after. But they had a talk and merged finances and had 2 more kids. So yours is not completely a lost cause -- if you can get over the communication and intimacy issues too.