My DP has Varicose Veins

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My DP has recently acquired varicose veins where she can’t see them. The only reason I can think to mention it is if they could cause health issues. I never comment on any signs of aging, weight, etc, unless she asks me to and I think she is gorgeous.

YABU - I should mention it.
YANBU - I shouid not mention it

What health reasons are concerned about…?

I really don’t know much about it - I read a site which suggested they might cause problems, but we’re generally benign, which is why I thought it was OK not to say anything.

Odd thread, did you mean to Google this?
Are we meant to guess or ask where they they have appeared?
Weird

They will likely cause problems with circulation in a few years, and may well lead to venous leg iulceration.
Tell her and then getvto gp. Sooner they are treated, the easier they are

Just below her bum.

If they aren't causing her any issues I probably wouldn't say anything. The issue they cause are all minor and things she would be aware of like itching.

You'd be very lucky to get any preventive treatment on the NHS now.

Maybe the ops wife is overweight and can't see them and he has noticed them and is only trying to be kind as to whether to say anything or not and how to go about it if he doesn't think she's noticed.

It's getting ridiculous now that married couples are too scared to say anything about to their loved ones because people, especially women are being conditioned to take offence at everything.

I would say something along the lines of, Darling, I've noticed a couple of veins on the back of your leg, are they causing you any discomfort?

I am guessing that “just below her bum” is a euphemism and that they are vulval varicose veins?

It’s not uncommon OP. Kind of you to be concerned for her but they don’t tend to cause problems.

If it is that, I’d mention it sensitively, but only because they can itch and she might mistake the symptoms for thrush or similar. If she knows what it is then they are easier to treat.

I’ve got varicose veins, they started to appear when I was 16. I’m nearly 52. They don’t even ache so I give zero shits. My 18 year old DC has them too. Plays a lot of sport and says isn’t going to let the thought of anyone noticing stop that, who cares. I mentioned them to a vascular specialist a few months ago who said they’d be unlikely to cause any other issues. My GM had really bad ones and died aged 92 (of something entirely unrelated). Specialist said they used to treat them but they just came back elsewhere and it didn’t really help. Actually thought mine would be much worse by now. Can think of much worse things to have 🤷‍♀️

As it's a very unusual place for them to appear, it could be related to pelvic congestion syndrome and, as such, you should encourage her to make an appointment with her GP.

I’m not really one for euphemisms! I mean on the top of the back of her thighs just below her bum where she doesn’t really look.

*many not bang

Can we just be clear that varicose veins are not caused by being overweight per se, so this whole ‘don’t want to mention it’ is nonsense.

Vulval varicose veins can be from pregnancy. They may also be pelvic congestion syndrome (would be other symptoms) or other ‘leaky valves’ in the groin. Could be a trauma. Could be several other things (i have a blood clotting disorder) and it’s also genetic.

It very much depends specifically where; specifically their presentation, and this persons medical history.

It was more that it’s considered a sign of aging which has made me reluctant to mention it. A bit like pointing out grey hairs for no good reason. I hadn’t connected it with being overweight.

Thank you for your advice. I’m leaning towards mentioning it.

Why is it bad even if it is aging? You should mention it in a very kind way - no big deal. Mostly completely cosmetic - you might get one :)

I’m not suggesting a single varicose vein is GP worthy but pelvic congestion syndrome in middle aged women who have had children gets worse. Not life threatening but good to be aware (if it is that).

I'm a month shy of 38 and I've had them on one thigh for years. I'm not overweight, I have been a little in the past but not when they appeared. I have however had 2 children and worked for decades on my feet. I hate them as I do the rest of my legs, my top half is skinny but the bottom half is not yet in a few kgs I'll be bordering underweight.

It's bad enough having them without "well meaning" people pointing them out. They aren't causing me an issue so the only way to get them removed is to pay privately and I don't have the money.

If you actually did some research you would see on the whole they aren't harmful at all if they aren't bothering you and I bet she knows they are there. I know my bum is covered in cellulite but despite the fact I exercise like a mad women it won't go away. I choose not to look at it because when I do it makes me feel like crap.

We can't all be blessed with the perfect body and even those of us who try and work at it will never succeed.

My DC is tall, the vascular specialist said that can lead to them (if genetically disposed anyway obviously).

I’ve had them over 50 years with no problem. In the 70s the Consultant. refused to deal with them because removing them was disproportionate. So I am surprise sed by “They will likely cause problems with circulation”

He's a long term poster and this is a pretty unremarkable thread. You're being needlessly confrontational.

I get it. My DD has cellulite and stretch marks on her thighs but insists on wearing shorter than short shorts. She has no idea and I don't know whether to tell her as I don't want to give her a complex but as I have the same I never know if I should tell her.

I also thought about posting a thread.

She's a grown woman who can handle it and do something if anything is needed so I would tell her. Ignore anyone thinking the worst of your post.