To find this odd of DP

[Gingerandhoney12]

I've been having a tough time financially recently and struggling with my ex DP due to us sharing our DC. He was also abusive to me in our past relationship we spilt up a long time ago though.

Ex DP had upset me a few days ago relating to our DC, I also plucked up the courage to express struggling with money to DP. This is due to alot of legal bills and didn't know if I could afford our trip away next year.

I just felt DP wasn't really listening. DP called and said that she had not really had time to reply to me as she was too busy. I felt upset that she wasn't listening and felt like she was saying I wasn't that important. So I did put the phone down. I just needed to be alone and I did text this to her. About 1 hr later she turns up at mine with flowers and chocolate and hugging me saying she's sorry (she literally never does this, ever)
I told her my worries and that I was super upset about various things. All was fine and it has been the past few days.

I saw DM today, she asked if DP turned up at mine with flowers and chocs. I said yea how do you know and DM has never been a great liar. She said oh I'm just wondering. I knew she had spoken to DP some how. After a few questions I asked if DP had contacted her and she said yes but please don't tell her that I told you.

So when I hung up on DP apparently she called my DM and expressed that she was upset that I'd done this (wtf). They then discuss on the phone about me being upset about my ex and my financial hardships. DP has not mentioned this to me.
Aibu to find that bloody weird. DP never calls or texts my DM or family normally. My family do really like her and get along but I've never known them to text.

It all just seems a bit sly from DP to go behind my back and do that.

For context this is a same sex relationship.

Could she have been trying to explain she'd not read the messages fully and for you to catch her up?
Without the wider picture the call to your mum might have been out of concern, the flowers showing she cares and an offer of a olive branch?

If there's drip feeds I may have a different view.

So I guess that's why you feel triggered because you're abusive ex did similar?

Can you pull it apart and separate it?

I don't think DP is in the wrong. I think though, that DM didn't need to say anything, as it has made things sound worse and something they're not?

I don't think DP meant any harm, but, I also don't think you should feel uncomfortable admitting your money and the hard times you're feeling.

She didn't realise how upset you were until you hung up on her, your mum put her straight and she rushed over to make up and be there for you. People can't do anything good these days without all sorts of ulterior motives being assumed. Sounds like you have two people in your life who have your back.