To be fed up with DHs collections

[ZombieGirl86]

Ok so, just checking in if this is a me thing. I get really irritated by all the crap my dh collects. He buys football magazines none stop going back decades as one example and doesnt even open them. They stay weapped in cardboard and dumped in random parts of the house.

Today i made him sort them and he said its not his fault i need to give him time to get more storage. We dont need more storage. We bought a big house recently and i dont want to fill it with bookcases and boxes to house things he never looks at. Ww have several full ones already.

He collects lots of other things as well for example he only wears his clothes hung outside the wardrobe because the inside is filled with his phases of things he no longer wears but he refuses to get rid of.

I feel like theres about 5% of our stuff thats mine and i can buy things because theres no room. But this doesnt stop him and he gets grumpy when i ask him to stop...

I had a really difficult childhood and didnt really have things that are mine no games books etc till later so im not into things at all which makes me think this is manily a me thing? But i do really like clean tidy spaces otherwise i feel stressed?

I think this is something you should have discussed and resolved before moving in together. It sounds as though you expect him to live in a way you permit and that’s not how a relationship should work.

Mine has hints of this, ancient magazine ‘collections’ in the loft. Just chuck them! Currently there is detritus everywhere, he’s 3D printing a big project. The waste kills me, I’m a mad recycler, I’ll spend ages removing tape, flattening boxes to ensure I can recycle them. I hate seeing discarded plastic pieces going in the bin.

I think, if he’s taking over parts of the house, he needs to rationalise at least to a point, particularly if he’s not interested in the collections anymore.

To clarify we have beed together 20 years. This isnt something thats an issue most of the time but sometimes it really suffocates me.

Same! The problem i have he always claims to still be interested in them even when they havent been looked at in years.

Luckily we have a big house so its not messy and i end up finding a plce to shove things but i dont want to have to.

He would be really upset if i chucked something of his and i wouldnt do that to be honest that feels like crossing a line.

Your husband is a hoarder. This will not get better.

My ex is like this. He reckons he needs more storage. What he needs is less stuff.

I used to chuck the odd magazine of his into the recycling. He never noticed despite telling me he looked back at all of them including the old ones that couldn’t be accessed as they were piled up so high. Made no difference to the mess but I felt better for doing it!

When my sister was widowed she sold her husbands collections for 10k, it was worth more but she just sold to a dealer as couldn’t be bothered to relay look through. He had spent so much money and the family had gone without. As much as clutter is annoying I hope that money wise it’s not an issue.