Will start by saying he’s autistic if that makes a difference. DS is almost 4 and is very much a mummy’s boy. He has his cute moments with dad and you can see the love but 99% of the time it’s me he wants. It’s been intensified over the past few months. It’s sweet but can be a bit draining at times
This morning for example, when the DC woke up (we also have an 8yo) DH said he’d take the kids downstairs for breakfast and said I could have a lie in as I couldn’t sleep last night. Soon as DS realised I wasn’t coming down he started crying. I could hear him from upstairs, he was screaming by this point saying mummy.
Me and dh have had a talk in the past and we thought maybe ignoring it would help. We have been trying to do that but it’s not working. I listened to the screaming and the “mummy” for around 2 minutes before I decided to go down. Soon as I came into the living room DS ran over to me and stopped crying.
There’s plenty more examples but this is the latest one. DH is trying so he isn’t the issue, as harsh as it sounds the issue is the clingyness.
I went out with a friend 2 weekends ago and DH told me DS had cried for an hour straight for me, to the point he was gagging he was crying that much. He went into the corner of the living room and when DH went over to him or tried to speak to him he’d scream louder
I feel awful not always being available but I do need a bit of time to myself too. Has anyone been through similar?