I don’t want to go on holiday after break up

[NavyZebra]

I’m supposed to be leaving for a solo holiday in just a few hours, but my boyfriend just broke up with me, and I’m feeling completely lost. The timing couldn’t be worse, and it’s taken all the excitement out of this trip that I was really looking forward to.

I know I should try to make the most of the holiday, but right now, I can’t help but feel overwhelmed by everything that’s happened. AIBU to feel this way? Has anyone else gone through something similar just before a big trip? How did you cope with the mix of emotions?

Poor you, that’s awful, I totally understand. I think you need to do what’s best for you…going on the trip might take your mind off things, but if you’d rather have the comfort and support from your friends and family at home now then that’s also totally fine! I’m sorry that you’re in this situation! 💐

Go on a trip. Change of scenery is the best in these circumstances.

I'd go. Freedom. Time to think. Come back, fresh start. I think I'd prefer this timing to him saving it to tell me after the trip. Sorry you're hurting. Onwards and upwards though, he wasn't right for you, and when you do meet someone better, you'll be glad you didn't waste a trip moping after him.

Go on the trip
Use that time for reflection and healing
Change of scenery and some " you" time
Treat yourself to whatever pastime or activity is right for you , eat well , sleep well , lie in , read a book
Relax and come back with a clearer mind

I had a mc before going away once. Being at home I felt horrendous but when I went away it was like stepping out of my life for a bit. Did me the world of good actually.

Could he have broken up with you because he wanted to ruin your holiday/punish you for wanting to go somewhere without him/make you cancel?

Wouldn't surprise me, there are frequently posts from women who have experienced absolutely the same thing. The ones that still go are far happier than the ones who stay at home.

Go. You'll feel better than sitting at home alone - and if he's planning upon waltzing back in once you've cancelled and are sitting on the sofa being sad/have fallen for his coercive control tactics, he's going to have a bit of a shock.

That man and that relationship don't define you, and he's done you a massive favour. I know you don't appreciate that right now, but someday you will. Go on the trip and use this time to think about you and what you want out of life.

I expect the holiday will do you the world of good. But even if you were miserable… a choice of miserable at home having wasted your money or miserable away where it might be better… it’s a no brainer!

What a mean thing for him to do - I also think the timing deliberate to punish you.

As @NeverDropYourMooncup asks

Could he have broken up with you because he wanted to ruin your holiday/punish you for wanting to go somewhere without him/make you cancel?

Have you broken up / made up before?