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Elderly mothers batty neighbour

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Foodymucker · 31/08/2024 11:19

My mum is 88 and lives in a semi detached bungalow , some years ago the neighbours said they wanted to put up a fence , mum agreed and offered to share costs which they declined and while she was out they removed the hedge which was there ( mums ) and put up a fence . All good you would think but for some reason known only to themselves they put it inside their boundary and for years have been causing trouble about the 4 inches of garden they own on my mums side of the fence . The have put rubbish , wood and bricks though the fence over the years but the recent harassment has been to lift the fence panels and put them on bricks and put ornaments though .
mum can't afford to put up her own fence and I think if she did the would damage it by putting things between the 2 fences , we put large pots and a small fence to block the gap but they have now put a third fence panel up on bricks .
None of us live near and at the end of the day my mum is old and vulnerable on her own she won't contact 101 because she thinks it will make things worse and she won't move because she's lived there so long so we are at a loss how to deal with the situation .

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sonjadog · 31/08/2024 11:23

I don't quite understand what you mean with the bricks and ornaments etc. but would you be able to help your Mum with the cost of a proper fence on her side? If so, I think I would get a good solid fence put up and then leave them to whatever they want to do on their own side.

Kelly51 · 31/08/2024 11:25

So they built a fence in the wrong position and now shove stuff through into the 4 inches they say is theirs?
That is truly batshit.
One of you need to visit and speak to them and say this is an issue they caused and if they want their 4 inches they'll need to live their fence but they have to stop putting crap over the fence.

parakeet · 31/08/2024 11:28

The neighbours are certainly unreasonable, but at 88, might it be best to encourage your mum to just ignore it?

AIstolemylunch · 31/08/2024 11:33

Just pay for a good fence on her side of the boundary and leave them to it. My neighbours did similar with an extension right up to the boundary but had to leave a small gap as we wouldnt let them overhang onto our land as they wanted. Now the wind blows all kinds of crap into their garden via the gap and local kids chuck mc donalds wrappers into it which you can see from their side but not ours, so we just ignore it, having put up a solid fence on our side before they started.

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