To feel devastated after being blocked by a friend, especially before my holiday?

[Curiousminds123]

I’ve recently been blocked by a close friend, and it’s really affecting me. We had a good conversation the last time we spoke, and had plans for yesterday. Didn’t hear anything and now I’m blocked.

This situation is especially hard for me because I’m about to go on holiday tomorrow, and it feels like this has completely ruined my mood. I’m feeling confused and upset because I thought our friendship was strong.

AIBU to feel this way, and how should I handle this situation moving forward, especially since I’m about to leave for a trip?

Yes, it was a planned visit to come round

YANBU to be very upset by this, no. I'm going through a friend breakup at the moment (probably) and it really sucks. It's worse than a romantic breakup in some ways.

If it helps, I spent 50 minutes of therapy this week asking my therapist if I was being unreasonable to be so upset about the situation, and she confirmed I wasn't!

Maybe he's in prison

Have they been in contact now? I've got a friend that does this whenever life is overwhelming

It’s awful op, so painful to be in the receiving end of this. I read a brilliant book about ostracism a few years ago having been deeply affected by someone doing this to me in a particularly awful way. the final chapter of the book concludes that some people use ostracism as an alternative to conflict resolution and people like this should be avoided because the behaviour is so harmful and so likely to happen. So yes it’s painful but also, you might want to think about whether you even want to have contact with somebody who does this

I can't be doing with people like this, op just be grateful you no longer have to put up with this shite, forget her, enjoy your holiday and try to make better friends.

This is such an awful thing to happen, you're not overreacting at all. There's nothing you could possibly have done unknowingly that would merit this kind of treatment. Especially since she presumably knows you're going on holiday.

I think you need to leave the ball in her court now but it's ok to feel sad about it, just keep telling yourself that you don't deserve to be treated in this way

Blocked messages don't get delivered after being unblocked 🤨🤔 unless I'm wrong.

On WhatsApp I think you're right, they never send

Any trusted mutual friends you can ask? If you've truly done nothing then she may be in trouble

If she's in a bad place and expected you to reach out before her visit to reassure her she may have struggled with feelings of rejection that are not your fault but do occur when the black dog rears its head...

If someone blocked me I wouldn't care I just think oh well and move on it's not worth it if they can block for no reason without telling you then they sound really nasty and I have blocked someone before only because they were rude to me and I didn't want to say anything I just thought I'll move on so I blocked them