I moved to where we live 5 years ago. It just happens that an extended member of the family lives around the corner. At first it was fun to build a relationship but it soon became a drain/nightmare. All he would do would spend 100% of the time talking, help himself to our booze (we actually had to hide the contents of our alcohol cupboard upstairs), turn up after the local pub closed and stay until the early hours during the week. Even cold sober he was incredibly selfish, self entitled and a user. He got the arse with DH a couple of years ago and stopped coming over. It was bliss and I’m not sure why I put up with it for so long.
He’s been trying to make amends with us/me. He’s apologised for falling out with us and says he misses me over text. I don’t want to be rude/be confrontational but all I can think is ‘it’s been bliss since he’s not been in our lives, apart from sharing some DNA we have nothing else in common’. I think I’m going to send some sort of ‘no hard feelings… all the best!’
Same with a friend, she just ghosted me one day/deleted me from SM. After a year she reached out to apologise, explained that I had pissed her off but in reflection she had massively over reacted/wasn’t really my fault and she’d like to be friends again. Again all I could think was that I had zero interest in relighting the friendship as she wasn’t the greatest friend before the ghosting and life had moved on.
It’s not just these two situations either, I can think of two others which are fairly similar. DH says I’m stubborn but it’s not necessarily a bad thing. I’m wondering if this is normal/am I bit too cold hearted? It seems to be when people fall out with me (honestly 99% of my relationships are drama free!) and after healing from it, I just become over it even with an apology. I just feel like a bad person.
Am I a cold-hearted/mean person?