I caught up with a friend recently. A couple of years back she and I left a hobby group, along with a number of others, after the culture became quite toxic. I joined another group which proved to be much healthier and, whilst I keep in touch with the odd person I got along with, haven’t given it much consideration since.
My friend, however, has been posting on the group community page, and, despite there being no attempts to make up or acknowledge what went down, is back interacting with the same people who previously were reducing her to tears.
When I asked why she bothered, given her experience, she told me she had a philosophy of “making friends with your enemies” - and that I shouldn’t bear grudges. Truth be told, I’m happy to live and let live, and to agree to disagree - but I feel I’ve better things to do than go out of my way to maintain a pleasant relationship, if someone’s been shitty, will keep on being shitty and shown they’re not the least bit sorry?
The phrase “I know where I’m not wanted” springs to mind.
AIBU?