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Dog jumping the fence

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Darksideoftheprune · 29/08/2024 19:53

Can anyone suggest what my mum can do?

Next door (young guy, house owned by his parents who live elsewhere, house stinks of weed) has a medium staffy type dog that would often jump my mums fence and started barking at her in her own garden. My mum is terrified of dogs so my mum got someone in to build a 6ft fence.

This guys girlfriend moved in 2 weeks ago with 3 of her dogs. 2 are huge bullmastiff type things, they are never walked and bark non stop. Any noise sets them off. My mum thought the 6ft fence solved the problem but yesterday the biggest dog has jumped her fence and was in her garden barking and shitting on her lawn. I was over at the time so i knocked on next doors and explained my mum is terrified of dogs and afraid to go in her own garden. He just said sorry and hopped the fence to my mums to get the dog back as my mums gate was locked and I told him I wasnt going in to the garden to unlock the gate with the dog barking. He could hardly drag the dog back and was properly out of breath. I asked him how he got over and asked if he had his bins against the fence and thats how the dog got over maybe. He denied this and said no but there is a slide at the bottom of the garden he could have gotten over on. My mum looked out her side of house window and lo and behold the bins were against the fence. The bottom of their garden is full of crap (as is the whole garden) stacked up on top of eachother so the dog could have gotten over either end really.

This afternoon my mum has noticed a chewed up tennis ball in her garden, flower pots knocked over and soil all over the patio and flowers trampled so the dog (or one of them) has been over again.

My mum is now scared to go in her own garden. What can she do? The neighbour doesnt care and seems on another planet. She is planning to move because of the scuzzy neighbour but that is going to take time.

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SummerSplashing · 29/08/2024 22:04

@Darksideoftheprune

id have someone there first thing tomorrow putting trellis on top of the fence as high as they can. Attach bamboo along that to make it appear more solid.

if she's that scared of the dogs she should be reporting it. So what if she has to declare a disagreement with the neighbours? Better that than months of living in fear. Maybe the dogs will be removed or the gf will move out with them. Maybe she won't then feel the need to move out.

Flossflower · 29/08/2024 22:05

whowhatwerewhy · 29/08/2024 21:48

Not ideal but could your mom leave her gate open so the dog wanders the streets.

This is what I would do. Maybe they will then be a bit more careful.

Myfluffyblanket · 29/08/2024 22:07

There are metal roller things available to stop cats and dogs jumping fences . They do not hurt the animal , just prevents it from apexing .
You just screw them along the top of each panel .
I feel so sad for your Mum .

SummerSplashing · 29/08/2024 22:08

Darksideoftheprune · 29/08/2024 22:01

Honestly those dogs live such a horrible life they'd be better off not living. 4 dogs stuck in a tiny house, awful garden full of debris and dog shit. They never get so much as a walk poor sods.

@Darksideoftheprune

they need removing & rehoming, poor things.

its not fair to set them free to roam the streets though, potentially causing a car crash or fear/hurt to other people.

i know its not 'fair' for your mum, but extending the situation to other people isn't a solution.

ncforcatquestion · 29/08/2024 22:18

Go back to the door and tell him can he sort out the garden so it doesn't keep happening. Be polite and nice about it but your mum is terrified of them, and keep doing this until he does something

Darksideoftheprune · 29/08/2024 22:22

ncforcatquestion · 29/08/2024 22:18

Go back to the door and tell him can he sort out the garden so it doesn't keep happening. Be polite and nice about it but your mum is terrified of them, and keep doing this until he does something

I cant really as I live nearly 3 hours away, it has to now be down to my mum until I go visit again in 6/7 weeks. She has already been over a few times already when his staffie was the only one jumping the fence, he just says ok and shrugs his shoulders and goes back to his spliff.

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marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 29/08/2024 22:24

@SummerSplashing the OPs mum has bigger issues to consider than whether the out of control dog is knocked down. That is HIS problem; hers is her own safety.

TheClawDecides · 29/08/2024 22:27

Trellis will add another couple of feet to the fence.

Goldbar · 29/08/2024 22:31

Add a couple of foot of wire mesh to the top of the fence?

HeadsAlwaysSpinnig · 29/08/2024 22:31

Call 101 and the dog warden, the dog does NOT have to bite to be dangerously out of control, if you FEAR the dog will bite you- thats enough

Ineffable23 · 29/08/2024 22:36

Add a trellis to the top of the fence and don't raise a dispute or offer to move the stuff yourself next time you're down.

Cheeesus · 29/08/2024 22:38

Darksideoftheprune · 29/08/2024 21:53

I dont suppose there is any kind of legal tazer or pepper spray or something she could defend herself with if she needed to? She will not go in her back garden now but incase they get out the front or something. Shes petrified.

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OpalGoose · 29/08/2024 22:38

Why should your Mum move because of the idiots next door? She'd have to disclose the trouble they're causing in the seller's pack, I think, and that could put off potential buyers or reduce how much she gets for the house. Contact every organisation that can force them to control their dogs and clean up their disgusting garden and keep complaining until they make them do it or force them to move, if they can.

JohnofWessex · 29/08/2024 22:43

Darksideoftheprune · 29/08/2024 21:24

There is no landlord; the blokes parents own the house and they are as dodgy as their son.

If my mum reports this to police/dog warden etc will she need to declare when she sells her house?

In terms of 'liability' and 'responsibility' the parents are the landlords, the fact that there may not be any rent paid is irrelevant

Darksideoftheprune · 29/08/2024 22:46

OpalGoose · 29/08/2024 22:38

Why should your Mum move because of the idiots next door? She'd have to disclose the trouble they're causing in the seller's pack, I think, and that could put off potential buyers or reduce how much she gets for the house. Contact every organisation that can force them to control their dogs and clean up their disgusting garden and keep complaining until they make them do it or force them to move, if they can.

My mums had enough to be honest. Sorry for the drip feed but orginally when the house was bought by the parents a few years ago it was a mess, then their daughter moved in with her 3 young kids who didnt go to school and the mum just smoked lots of weed, swore at her kids, had domestics with her boyfriend(s), smashed windows, ripped down her back gate in an argument, had social services over, dirty nappies in garden and eventually left and moved back in with her parents. Then they move their son into the property who isnt as bad but the new dog situation is just out of hand.

My mum shouldn't have to move but I worry for her safety if she kicks up a fuss and I dont want her living in fear.

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user1471538275 · 29/08/2024 22:50

Call the dog warden, log it with 101 and call the RSPCA. Anything/everything that can be done to sort this.

Your poor mother, I totally understand her wanting to get out but who would want to live there - imagine if a family with young children move in? How would she feel about that?

OpalGoose · 29/08/2024 22:52

Darksideoftheprune · 29/08/2024 22:46

My mums had enough to be honest. Sorry for the drip feed but orginally when the house was bought by the parents a few years ago it was a mess, then their daughter moved in with her 3 young kids who didnt go to school and the mum just smoked lots of weed, swore at her kids, had domestics with her boyfriend(s), smashed windows, ripped down her back gate in an argument, had social services over, dirty nappies in garden and eventually left and moved back in with her parents. Then they move their son into the property who isnt as bad but the new dog situation is just out of hand.

My mum shouldn't have to move but I worry for her safety if she kicks up a fuss and I dont want her living in fear.

I fully understand why your Mum wants to move, it must be horrendous living in fear and not being able to use your own garden because of idiots who don't bother to control their dogs. It's sickening that it's the victim that will incur all the additional hassle and expense of sorting out a situation caused by irresponsible dopeheads. That's why I suggested using every legal entity to its fullest extent to force the dopeheads to make amends.

Darksideoftheprune · 29/08/2024 23:03

I dont think the dopeheads will make amends even when forced, and they are not good people so by doing that I worry mum will be a target to them.

Sadly yes, it wouldnt be good to sell to a young family so I think she would avoid that. Her house needs a lot of work doing to it (recently rewired throughout) and the houses are v small so hopefully wouldnt attract too many families. There is a man going round buying lots of houses and flipping them to rent so I think thats what mum is hoping will happen. She went as far as getting a quote from a we buy any house type of buyer too. Sadly we have to put my mums well being above that of a potential buyer.

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OpalGoose · 29/08/2024 23:09

Yes, your Mum is worth more than the money and everything else.

Isometimeswonder · 29/08/2024 23:12

Call the police, say there's a bully dog in your garden.
Let them deal with it.

XChrome · 29/08/2024 23:15

Is it a wooden picket fence? If so, your mother can have a two foot piece of trellis added on top. That should make it high enough. If it's metal, that's more challenging.

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 29/08/2024 23:50

Oh no. Your mum left some Magic Steak in the back garden.

ncforcatquestion · 29/08/2024 23:53

Then maybe your mum can keep on at him. Being nice about it is likely to be more effective than getting upset. She has to just get him to understand her fear of the dogs. But if all else fails I would complain to the council as a last resort. Maybe his girlfriend will be better to talk to

ncforcatquestion · 29/08/2024 23:54

I feel sorry for your mum, mine is the same, completely terrified of dogs so she doesn't even like walking outside because of it

Goldbar · 29/08/2024 23:56

ncforcatquestion · 29/08/2024 23:53

Then maybe your mum can keep on at him. Being nice about it is likely to be more effective than getting upset. She has to just get him to understand her fear of the dogs. But if all else fails I would complain to the council as a last resort. Maybe his girlfriend will be better to talk to

Man keeps a bloody dangerous animal in his backyard and the neighbours are supposed to butter him up to avoid being savaged 🙄!