Ds15 is anaphylactic to peanuts. Dh was picking him up tonight and was stopping on the way home to get dinner. Ds decided to get a microwave dinner - he put it on the register with the other groceries and dh paid. When I got home he had just finished it and came out and said he didn’t feel right - he got the pack out the bin and it was a satay.
I immediately gave him antihistamines, and took him to the nearest medical centre. He just said his throat is tingling. The medical centre said we needed to go to hospital as it can be delayed response. So here we are at the hospital.
dh thinks that it was a massive overreaction and I should just bring him home. He didn’t think we should even go the med centre in the first place as he seemed fine. I told him to make sure he cleaned up and looked after the other kids. He started with ‘well he needs to be more aware when he’s buying things’.
ds did not know satay meant peanuts. Dh does know it means peanuts. When it became clear I was not happy he said ‘what, is this my fault too?’ As yesterday ds didnt take his meds as I left early and he didn’t remind him. I told him to make sure he took them and left them on the bench. So I was unhappy with him yesterday.
ds15 is asd/adhd and has executive function issues. I feel like dh, as the adult, should take more responsibility. Dh thinks because ds is 15 he should be responsible for himself - and him not taking his meds and buying the satay was ds fault. And I am unreasonable being angry at him.
AIBU dh is right
AINBU dh is responsible