Would you break up marriage with very young kids for the sake of a drunken kiss on stag do?

[Drinou]

That is it. Confirmation there was no more. 2 kids under 3.

No.

Yes, I would. I'd be horrified if my husband did this.

Perhaps not. But it would definitely spoil the relationship for me and I think I’d probably keep it in mind as a “mental note” and not be very careful of his feelings on the off chance I felt like kissing somebody.

For me it would depend how the rest of the relationship was and how remorseful he was. So I can't give an answer on one line of information.

No

No! But he wouldn’t be going on any more Stag Do’s very soon….
Btw how did you find out about the drunken kiss?

It would depend on how I found out.

He comes home and tells you about it right away and is remorseful, I wouldn't break up.

He tries to hide it, you hear from someone else, he lies and gaslight you, I probably would.

Yes, because the kiss meant one of two things.

Either:

1: it was unwanted by the woman and therefore sexual harassment

1. It was wanted by the woman, which usually means a period of engagement beforehand; talking, flirting, touching, connection.

So it was more than "just a kiss".

How did you find out?

No. It would be better if he had told me himself though, rather than finding out from someone else.

Lying/sneakiness would be a bigger issue than being a drunken prat and doing something stupid.

As petty as it sounds, this would be my reaction too.

If he wants to open the floodgates of acting on your whims then I’m here for it.

Dh told me a couple days after he came home. I’m good friends with the wife of another stag attendee. I’m sure he shared to get ahead of it bejng shared via friend

Would depend on a few things for me.

Was it with someone he knew?
Is he likely to ever see them again?
Does he have their number?
Did he tell you himself or did you discover it?
Did he lie to you about any of it?
Is he remorseful?
Is he willing to work at repairing the trust between you?

There are probably more factors but these spring to mind

Honestly, I’d try to work it out. Whether it did work out would be based on how accountable and trustworthy my DH was from that point on. They would have to accept that for a very long time to come there would be no trust and they would have to demonstrate they were trustworthy with total transparency.

Think “drunken prat doing something stupid”
is probably the right response…

Its that attitude that would end the relationship for me. Honest, upfront and remorseful I could possibly live with but only telling you because you'll hear elsewhere would kill my trust 100% because I'd be wondering what he'd do if I wouldn't find out.

Well, I'm not sure that I would be brave enough to end things with very young children.

But I was cheated on by an ex who kissed someone else when drunk and called me immediately crying and wailing and asking for forgiveness, promising he'd never do it again ...

Reader, he did it again. Many times. And although I can't prove it, I'm sure he slept with at least one of them (unless I wanted to believe his story that he got drunk and slept on her sofa and how he's no idea why he came home with all his clothes except his boxers ... Ha fucking ha). Pretty sure he wouldn't have told me about the first time if there hadn't been other people there who could have told me.

If my current DH kissed someone else, it would be immediately over for me.

Yes because it's never just a kiss. However drunk he knew he was married

I am not sure. Because I know me. I wouldn’t believe he had never done that, or more on other situations. I wouldn’t trust other attendees to be honest.

It would eat away at me, that he had done more either then or in other situations. So eventually it would be over.

If I thought I was the sort of person that could accept it was a one off and never had happened other times, then I might be able to get past it. But that’s not me.

I would need to understand the context of thd kiss

No, if the relationship is otherwise solid, but it would be a good trigger to end a relationship that was otherwise unsatisfactory.

I'm the last one to advocate being a doormat, but I think this is definitely salvageable if you'd like it to be.

Honestly, I don't know 😕 I would be furious and it would take me a very long time to trust him again, if ever. I think it would be really difficult to forgive. Is he very remorseful? Is he willing to put the work in to make things right with you and earn your trust and forgiveness?

Without hesitation. Do it once, get away with it, could do it again. And I'd certainly never trust him if he went on a night out in future.

Maybe not but I’d be FURIOUS and it would take a long time and a lot of hard work on his part to make it right again.

Yes i certainly would