Bit of a strange one.

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My partner died quite young (late 40’s) 7 years ago, and had chosen a burial meadow and biodegradable coffin before he died (cancer, so he knew his time was limited). A few days before he died, he asked if I’d buy the neighbouring plot for myself, so after he died I did. I didn’t date for 6 years and just threw myself into parenting, work and friendships. I didn’t think I’d be interested in pursuing a new relationship-but I have met someone and it’s going well. I haven’t told him about my burial plot! I still want to be buried there. To me it’s just a beautiful place, and I do like the thought of being next to my late partner. AIBU not to tell him?

I wouldn’t worry about this now, grief is a long journey and your wishes are flexible over time. See what the future brings and if you decide to remain with your current decision or change your mind both are understandable. I wouldn’t share this with your new partner now. It’s good news you are ready to date again and have met someone nice, I wish you all the luck.

This is the type of information that doesn't need to be shared until it turns into a much more serious committed relationship. You are not locked into anything at this point and can change your mind (or you can by a plot for the new bloke in the same place).

Just kidding, sort of. 😂

Well done for getting out there and making a new connection.

I am sorry for your loss. And I am glad that you have found a new relationship.

It is probably a bit too early to discuss this stuff with him. But I would let somebody else know your wishes at this point and put it in writing. I would then review it every year.