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… to ask your help deciding on how to respond to our buyer’s request

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Northerngirl1969 · 28/08/2024 19:23

So, we’re part of a four person chain with four houses being bought/sold. Our buyer’s house has been surveyed and an issue has been found. Their buyers (the FTBs) are requesting a £20k reduction as a result. The estate agents representing our buyers (and the house with the issue) are suggesting we help out our buyer by taking £10k off our price and that our sellers should take off £5k. Thus we would be worse off by £5k, our sellers worse off by £5k and our buyers (and the owner of the house with an issue) £10k. The first time buyer will be better off by £20k. The issue is not major. Our estate agent believes the quotes for the work don’t come anywhere near the £20k but of course there’s inconvenience etc. Lastly the FTBs got the survey done on the house very late. So we’ve already 3 months in and several thousands of solicitor fees in. Your thoughts are very welcome!

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poetryandwine · 28/08/2024 19:55

Babychewtoy · 28/08/2024 19:48

The FTBs aren’t going to want to pull out after 3 months, paying for a survey, solicitors fees etc.

The owners of the house with the problem should consider reducing the price by the actual amount the work will cost (definitely not extra for “inconvenience”). And they should have enough of a buffer to be able to accommodate that. If that small amount is the difference between whether they can afford your house or not then their mortgage wouldn’t have been approved.

I agree with this. From what you’ve said, OP, the figure of £20K sounds inflated. Why should the whole chain, or indeed the sellers to the FTBs, pay for the FTBs inconvenience or possible cold feet?

Like a PP I wonder how much the FTBs are using the boilerplate about the house they wish to purchase not being up to the electrical code, whether or not they realise that no house lacking recent updating is ‘up to code’, and other such phrases to obtain a late discount. It could be manipulation, nervousness, or tight finances. But it isn’t your problem.

Northerngirl1969 · 28/08/2024 19:55

Thanks everyone for your replies. I am swinging between thinking it’s bonkers to go along with the reduction and bonkers not to given the amount we’ll lose.

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Northerngirl1969 · 28/08/2024 19:57

Our buyer didn’t have a survey on our house.

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Secradonugh · 28/08/2024 19:58

Although the house may not be at 18th edition part 2, no house needs to be unless it was built or rewired since 18th part 2 came out. It's no risk on insurance and 20k is a massive p take unless the wire in the house is vulcanised rubber, and you need a new incomer (or the house is big)

AgathaMystery · 28/08/2024 20:01

OP we were in a similar situation 8yrs ago. We broke the chain and remained in our home for another 3 years. No way were we getting involved in those shenanigans.

Northerngirl1969 · 28/08/2024 20:01

Just to add incase it’s relevant (and apologies if so) the issue is damp related

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Lemonyfuckit · 28/08/2024 20:04

Absolutely would not be taking a hit on your sale in response to an issue on your buyer's house. No way Josè. And I think the estate agent is a CF for asking (but then no surprises there re estate agents).

Northerngirl1969 · 28/08/2024 20:06

To be clear, I’m not 100% sure whether it’s our buyers asking or the estate agents

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Secradonugh · 28/08/2024 20:06

Northerngirl1969 · 28/08/2024 20:01

Just to add incase it’s relevant (and apologies if so) the issue is damp related

That does make a difference to if they are taking the piss with 20k. But if they have a mortgage agreed (I.e. not in principal) so the mortgage company is aware of the damp then it's not your problem. My first had a damp issue, mortgage was fine with it.

Secradonugh · 28/08/2024 20:08

If you do decide to pay then demand to see the 3 estimates they have and give them a deadline of 24 hours for you to receive them.

5128gap · 28/08/2024 20:09

Secradonugh · 28/08/2024 19:55

A friend of mine was put in a similar situation 2 months ago. He spoke to his estate agent who said that this is becoming a bit common. You aren't loosing your part of the chain and if the ftb want 20 grand they can learn to save or rent longer. He moved 2 weeks ago, the ftbs didn't get anything from him

It doesn't matter that it's not the OPs link in the chain that's broken. Without the FTB, no one is going anywhere. So they all have to wait until vendor 1 finds another buyer, surveys etc. By which time someone's mortgage offer could expire...its really not that simple as to say its not OPs problem.

Grateeggspectations · 28/08/2024 20:11

I wouldn’t be chucking any money into the pot. But I’d suggest that maybe the estate agent who came up with the idea might like to throw some of their commission at the problem to keep the deal together. No sale no fee

Richard1985 · 28/08/2024 20:12

Only you can determine how important that £5k is.

If you bought your house in the 1980’s for £30k and are now selling for £400k I’d probably take the hit

On the other hand you could be in negative equity where a small sum makes a huge difference to your profit/repayment

Cornflakelover · 28/08/2024 20:12

My stepson has something similar in that the buyers of his house couldn’t get his money without losing a few k in interest and wanted to pass his stupidity up the chain

they all said no and the sales went through within a few weeks

Northerngirl1969 · 28/08/2024 20:16

Richard1985 · 28/08/2024 20:12

Only you can determine how important that £5k is.

If you bought your house in the 1980’s for £30k and are now selling for £400k I’d probably take the hit

On the other hand you could be in negative equity where a small sum makes a huge difference to your profit/repayment

It’s a relatively new purchase so we’re pretty much selling at what we paid for it. I feel like £5k is alot of money to give away but it’d be feasible.

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Catopia · 28/08/2024 20:19

I think the issue is that in this scenario, you have no control over the quote, the reasonableness or the decision on whether the work is necessary. You also, frankly, don't know if the damp was blindingly obvious at the time they put in the offer.

I would want to know if those above me in the chain were even contemplating going along with this, or similarly what their position was if they are the top of the chain and whether they are able to wait for those below you to get their act together if the FTB pulls out and your buyer needs to find a new buyer.

At least you are being informed! When we last bought, we were not informed that the delay was because the top part of the chain collapsed until we went for a further viewing to measure up and our sellers told us themselves!

RandomMess · 28/08/2024 20:19

It's not uncommon, they need to push back on £20k though. They Get some quotes and counter offer.

You can say you'll take a £2k hit, people above you £2k.

Up to the ones below how much they can take in addition to that £4k.

Bellamari · 28/08/2024 20:21

I would say no. It’s not just about the money. For the rest of my life I’d feel like I let someone get away with taking the piss out of me! Even if I ended up worse off, it’s the principle. Not your problem, tell them to get lost.

schloss · 28/08/2024 20:24

Northerngirl1969 · 28/08/2024 20:01

Just to add incase it’s relevant (and apologies if so) the issue is damp related

Pretty much guarantee a damp meters was used and the survey says there is damp, a damp proof course should be installed or further investigations should be done etc etc.

Damp meters are useless and surveyors cover their backsides.

Just as an aside if there are price changes throughout the chains then mortgages will need to be repplied for if applicable. I wuold guess if everyone agrees the next suggestion is it is cash given to each party so as to not affect the mortgages - that is not good.

dollopz · 28/08/2024 20:31

if there is work to be done the sellers of the house with the issue should cover the cost

MumblesParty · 28/08/2024 20:33

Are your sellers happy to pay the extra £5k?

Northerngirl1969 · 28/08/2024 20:35

MumblesParty · 28/08/2024 20:33

Are your sellers happy to pay the extra £5k?

We don’t know yet, we have asked.

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Howdull · 28/08/2024 20:37

It depends how much your making on the sale really.

How much did you pay for the house, and how much are you now selling it for?

CharlotteLucas3 · 28/08/2024 20:39

The details of the situation aren’t important. All that matters is whether the house sale is worth 5k to you. Will you be cutting your nose off to spite your face just because people on here are telling you to?

Do what feels right to you. Usually if something feels really difficult, it’s because it’s the wrong decision.

godmum56 · 28/08/2024 20:40

my response is as follows

  1. no
  2. hell no.
basically I think it stinks and is up there with gazumping. I might consider if it were my perfect live there forever dream home and the amount was a very small percentage of the money involved.
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