To feel confused and hurt by this situation?

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I’ve been close with a friend for a while now. Recently, after a perfectly normal conversation, he told me he had a migraine and couldn’t talk that night. The next day he was supposed to visit, but I couldn’t reach him. After a missed call from him, I called back but didn’t get an answer. I followed up with a few messages because I was concerned and confused by the silence. Then, I realised he’d blocked me on texts and calls.

There was no argument or conflict beforehand, and I’m feeling hurt and confused. I care about our friendship and don’t understand why he would block me like this. AIBU to feel this way? How should I handle this moving forward?

I am sorry you have experienced this but perhaps he is going through something of which you are not aware.
Depression? Family problems ? I know that I find it difficult to open up if things are not going well . Rather than lying and saying I'm fine ,I sort of shut myself away. You are not being unreasonable to be upset though .

Does he have a girlfriend/wife? Maybe she's asked him to cool it.

How long ago was this? I agree with above, potentially – does he have a partner?

He’s usually open with his personal issues. But it’s true that he could be dealing with personal issues that I’m not aware of, which might explain his recent behaviour. This is the first time he’s blocked me, so it’s quite confusing and upsetting for me. I’ve tried to reach out and understand what’s going on, but I also want to respect his space if he needs it.

He’s been single for a long time and his last relationship was abusive. I dunno if his past experiences might be affecting how he handles conflicts or communication. It’s the first time he’s blocked me, so this behaviour is new and unexpected for me.

It happened yesterday. He doesn’t have a partner; he’s been single for several years. Maybe his past experiences are influencing how he’s handling this now.

He's just rude.

Is there any hint of romance and could he have decided no?

What happened during the conversation?

There has been a lot of personal support and caring in our friendship, but it’s not romantic. We share a close and supportive connection, but that’s the extent of it.

It was just a usual chat. He mentioned he was feeling better than the day before and said he was going to a family event and would call me in the evening.

He might have blocked EVERYONE, not just you. The missed call was him to you, so I'm sure he wouldn't have tried to ring if he was cheesed off with you for anything.

If he's had struggles are you certain he's actually ok? Could he have spiraled and blocked people to have privacy to (sorry!) end his life? Is there any way you could check? Do you have mutual friends?

Missed call from him might have been his partner and they heard your voice or name on your voicemail

I’m not sure if he’s blocked everyone, but this is the first time he’s blocked me. I do worry about his wellbeing, especially given his recent health issues and how suddenly things have changed. I don’t have any mutual friends who might have more information though.

Please refer to my earlier comments about his relationship status. While such dramatic scenarios can occur in other Mumsnet posts and on TV, it's not applicable here.

Maybe he felt you were coming on strong, no matter how you read it he doesn't want to have contact with you and you need to respect it.

I would feel confused too but sometimes our behaviour is misread and we just never get to correct it.

I would try and step back from the situation and try not to dwell on it too much.

I would be worried about him, he may be withdrawing from people he is close to. People can do this for self protection sometimes. I know I have considered deleting every phone number I have and throwing my phone away, simply because I have felt worthless and like I would be better off not ‘bothering’ people.
It’s not at all rational of course!