I am a SAHM with 2 girls (one is 2 and the other 3 months). I worked in sales before and was made redundant whilst on MAT leave and we made the decision for me to take a couple of years out of work with the children.
My husband also works in sales, but as a manager and I do understand that it is a very high pressured job and industry.
I am EXTREMELY understanding, I think because I have been there, with early starts, late nights, overnight stays etc. and I just focus on the girls whilst he can solely focus his time on work.
However it just feels a little too much at the moment... he had paternity leave, but had to take calls whilst on it and now that she is 3 months I have begged for him to use up some of his holiday in the summer months just so we can do some family days out.
It was a struggle to get him to commit to it, but he did. But last minute had to shorten the week to 2 days because of a meeting- which I understood.
He's now saying he won't take it at all. We had plans to drive down to the beach, which I have bought all the bits for!
I'm just upset and frustrated as the weather is super lovey when we are going (not so much on the weekend) and was really looking forward to some family time.
I am always understanding, but I can't help but feel let down. He seems to not rust his team and thinks something will go wrong without him there- but this is no way to work at all...
He makes me feel guilty that I don't work and says he has to do it because of that, but tbh he has always been like this (even when I did work). I have countless memories of him taking his laptop abroad, me having to answer his messages whilst on car trips, him having to go somewhere for a call... it's honestly always been like this, but it upsets me even more now because we have our girls and I can't help but feel like we are missing out on quality family time and making memories.