Has anyone ever seen a doctor for loss of libido?

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DH used to have a great sex life, but since having our son 16 months ago I’ve completely lost interest.

I know it’s normal for sex to dwindle after having kids and I initially put it down to tiredness/the massive upheaval that comes with becoming a mum, but 16 months onwards I’m starting to worry it’ll never return. I want to want it. I still find my husband really attractive and he’s a really hands on dad/ pulls his weight at home so there’s no underlying resentment there. DS is a great sleeper, I’m back at work in a relatively stress free wfh job so it’s not like I’m still in the trenches of sleepless nights etc. I know I’m really lucky here.

But I just can’t get in the mood. Ever. When we do have sex- probably once a month or so- I can’t get into the right headspace and am willing it to be over (DH is very considerate and would be heartbroken if he knew this).

I can’t pinpoint any psychological reason so wondering if it’s something physical. I’d be mortified speaking to a doctor about this but considering it, not sure if there’s anything they can actually do? Help!

Are you breastfeeding?

No, stopped breastfeeding at around 6 months

Please don't be embarrassed about seeing your GP about this. Honestly it's a perfectly valid reason to see them and they'll have heard it all before.
Just a thought though, are you getting enough rest and enough time for yourself? Babies are the best form of contraception for sure.

I'm not qualified to give advice ( raised child alone so no partner) but several of my friends and family tell a similar story to yours

Op honestly I cannot say more how much reflexology helps with this. I got into it when I discovered Michelle Rogers on YouTube and with amazing results instantly from it. Try it, it works!

Thank you, I’ve seen my GP loads of times about potentially embarrassing issues (IBS and recurrent thrush sufferer 🙋‍♀️) and never felt an ounce of shame, I don’t know why this feels so embarrassing.

And I think so re rest, though not exercising anywhere near like I used to so perhaps do need to take a bit more time for myself, thanks for the reminder!