DS is 10 in a couple of months. He’s so bloody lazy. He’s not sporty, I’ll give him that, but he doesn’t try hard at anything. He finally found a sport that he’s not horrendous at last year and has been going regularly to his club. We’ve spent quite a bit on equipment for it.
For the last few months he’s moaned about going every single time, and often just half arses it during the training sessions. We’ve had a few weeks off over the summer as thought it would be good for him to have a break, and had a proper chat with him last week about whether he wanted to carry on - he did. But yet again tonight he kicked off about going again. I lost it with him and told him to get in the car and drove home. He got upset, but still can’t tell me whether he wants to carry on - “I don’t know” is his default answer.
If he gives up this hobby he’ll have serious free time in the week and weekends, and his fitness will go. The hobby has been amazing for his fitness and behaviour, and he’s made a couple of good friends there, so DH and I really want him to carry on. But we can’t do the 2-3 weekly battle and then painfully watch him half arse the session.
He’s still not able to make a decision, so I’ve told him he’s going, and if he complains or doesn’t try, that’s his screens gone on the weekend.
It’s so harsh and I don’t see how it’s going to work, but putting the ball in his court hasn’t worked, being nonchalant/gentle hasn’t worked. I feel like this will suck all the fun out of it, but nothing else was working.
He is inherently lazy. Academically average. He would love nothing more than to watch TV or play on consoles at home, with a bit of reading (only easy books) and Lego thrown in. He insists on going to a football club because his school friends do, but he hasn’t touched a football all summer holidays and won’t be happy when he goes back next week and all his teammates have honed their skills over the holidays.