Selfish friend

[Frilylily]

Been friends with this person for going on 15 years, theyve always been pretty flakey on and off but its never been a real problem. Along the lines of everyone has flaws, they can accept mine, i can accept theirs.
They got married this year and along with a very lavish hen, having to take time off work for the dress, the wedding etc along with the total cost of everything expected coming to £1300 to be a part of the wedding (days off, hen doo, hotels etc).
Unless it was wedding conversation, the conversation got brushed off. This person has not once made an effort to see me outside of any wedding plans - the entire of 2024. They cancelled multiple times on scheduled plans or just ignored my message on the day when we had plans and responded a few days later 'sorry so busy!' Ive respected the fact the wedding was a huge deal to them so just brushed this off thinking its their day and just let it blow over (whilst being a little annoyed internally) This wedding has been and gone now.
Im due my first baby imminently and I had a very brief baby shower - just a little lunch. They couldnt be bothered to turn up, or even text saying 'sorry cant come', They viewed a few social media posts knowing it was happening but refusing to acknowledge anything until there was a social event a few weeks later and I got a message the day before 'sorry mad busy' etc etc the usual.

The conversation is consistently about them and if you mention anything else you get left on read or just get a thumbs up reaction. It has usually been like this but its got dramatically worse and knowing a friend has not been bothered to the point ive told them some very important things and ive been left on read. Ive been phasing out conversation because ive got a little sick of it being pied off multiple times and left on read.
When i do reply now i get 'You didnt reply to my message' which irks me because they never respond unless its about them.

Ive had enough today and blocked them. Am i being dramatic?

Life’s too short ..use your energy on people who value you & your time.

Life is too short for arseholes like this. Its all about her isn't it? Sod that for a game of soldiers

This is a 15 year friendship, I think it deserves one attempt at an actual conversation before going straight to blocking.

However, if things don't improve it clearly isn't working so dial it right down. I wouldn't block outright, what's the point of cutting someone off.

It’s a sensible thing to do to walk away from a one sided friendship. I don’t blame you at all.

I’m not sure I would have blocked her though, simply because it invites drama if she notices and asks for an explanation. I think I probably just would have restricted what she could see on social media, taken longer to reply to messages and sent very vague, ‘oh, that’s nice’ or ‘oh, that’s a shame’ responses, and just phased her out. It could be that she’s unaware of just how rubbish of a friend she has been and you withdrawing might give her the kick up the bum she needs to start treating you properly. Or she might not care enough to even notice, in which case you can phase her out without any aggravation or upset, or having to avoid her if you’re ever mixing in the same circles.

Nope. You've given her way too many chances already. I'd have given up after the wedding bullshit, let alone not bothering to show up at your important life event. I probably wouldn't block her - she seems the type that will try to spin that - but I wouldn't give her any more of my time. I'd be "too busy" for eternity.

People grow out of frienships/ people change. She isn't your friend. Life is too short to put up with this. I probably wouldn't have blocked but I would mute, archive and not respond to any more messages.

I wouldn't block but I would fade out. You're just about to become a parent, you won't have time for people like this. Match their energy.

Life’s too short to put up with this type of BS. You don’t have to put up with bad behaviour from anyone. Block and move on.

It sounds like she may be jealous that you are pregnant/got pregnant first. She is not your friend, and you don’t need bad energy around you and your family.

She's not really a friend.

I probably wouldn't have blocked as that adds unnecessary drama, but I'd have taken a massive step back and started treating her to a dose of her own medicine (taking your time to reply and/or just a thumbs up). Relationships like these tend to fade out anyway.

I don't think you have been dramatic. You should have walked away a while ago.

I've recently phased out a friend that didn't seem interested in anything I had to say. We'd meet up, she would talk about things important to her and id listen/empathize etc, then id try to talk about my life and she would barely even acknowledge what I'd said before changing the subject. It all felt one sided so I decided I didn't need that sort of friendship in my life. Just phase this friend out, unblock maybe and just do as the poster above has suggested, give short replies to any messages and don't bother to tell them anything about your life anymore. They'll hopefully get the message and retreat.

Im not on any social media but there is mutual friends who sometimes post me so anything social media wise is easy. I have tried to discuss before about a lack of effort but again, it got brushed off as it wasnt about their life.

Ive unblocked and will just keep phasing out & ignoring most messages.
Lifes too short and this baby should keep me so occupied I wont even notice.