Just wondering what other people’s experiences were - my mum was very open and informative re sex and relationships with myself and my sister as teens in the mid 1980s. However many of my friends did not have the same experience.
I remember asking my boyfriend of the time if his mum had any conversations with him about sex and contraception etc. He was raised by a lone parent and he had no real contact with his father. His mum was a pretty fierce woman I simply could not imagine sitting him down for a sex chat.
He told me nothing at all, he picked stuff up from the school talk and friends.
Then he paused, and recalled when he’d been 17 and standing in front of the mirror putting on hair gel (spike hairdo!) before going out for the evening when she came up and said to him “remember to wear something if you do anything tonight” and moved swiftly away.
He thought she meant he should wear a jacket as it was winter… took him a couple of hours to twig she meant a condom….
AIBU - difficult for 80s mum to discuss sexual health with son, she did the best she could
AINBU - regardless of embarrassment she could’ve done better.
I do know the right answer!