15yr old boys at home

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During normal term time, how much quality interaction do you have on a daily basis with your 15-17yr old boys at home?

I mean time spent talking about their day, hugs, etc.
Or are they all in their bedrooms?

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In their bedrooms apart from mealtimes/ school/out with friends!! I try to organise going out to eat etc

My kids come out to forage for food, unless we have specifically booked an event requiring them to leave the house we don't see them.

Minutes.

Possibly even less with the one who was particularly angry at the world.

I think I saw one back in July...

Depends. DS2 avoided me like the plague, DS1 would come and talk to me at length as soon as he got in from school or college. Both have turned out to be decent adults, but it's DS2, who in his teens rejected everything we valued, who has grown up to share the same interests as us.

DS1 was huggy as a small child, but neither did hugs as teenagers. They do hug now.

DS2 gave up bedtime stories at about 11, DS1 carried on to about 15 - it was a very strange experience reading a Terry Pratchett, then next night coming back in a few chapters later with not a clue about the intervening story.

House was always full of assorted teenage boys - I miss that.

I make it my mission to pop up, ask do they want a game of scrabble/ chess/ X’s and O’s, watch something, or I sit with them the odd time when they’re watching you tube or gaming. I bribe them to come to shops/ go on walks with me. All my kids are properly addicted to screens so I have to keep on it

Mine comes for a walk with me a couple of times a week and we have a good chat about anything and everything.
Other than that, Snapchat conversations about food (where is it, can you buy some), but always a hug and anecdote before bed.

I see my 12 year old for about 10 minutes a day.

It was 15yrs ago so different time however he played games in the living room , meals at table since he was little so that was the norm .phones were new but banned at meal times .
Dn seemed to spend formative yrs in his bed room lol.
Find what works. I always offered lifts when I could ,captive audience but recent research has shown that more chat when not facing each other is a thing especially with boys .
Just hang in there it's a phase

I have 14 and 15 year old boys.

During the week, I see them loads. They spend about a hour talking to me about their day when they get home from school. They sit at the dining table and chat to me while I'm cooking dinner, if they find a new song they like or a funny video they come and show me. They will ask to play a board game a couple times a week, they will perform new songs they have learned on their instruments. We do martial arts together as a family.

At the weekends, they're out pretty much all day.with their friends, but by the time they get home at 6ish for dinner, I see them for at least a couple of hours over the course of the evening.

They both hug me a lot.

I'm actually really, really enjoying this age. But it wasn't always like this. I'd say 11-13yrs was hard and I barely saw them unless at mealtimes.

Just keep offering the opportunity to spend time with you, encourage them to talk. It'll get better.

One of my best friends is a vicar and I am on her church council. The other night we had a meeting which went on a bit into the evening, and as we came out her teenage son was waiting for her on his bike. We asked him if he was ok, as he had been playing football and then at a friend's house and expected him to still be there, and he said yeah I came to walk mum home as it's getting dark and stepdad is away. I walked to my car with tears in my eyes - what a lovely boy she has raised.