To really hate seeing my son drunk

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I'm wondering if I'm the only one who feels like this - hence asking.

DS is about to turn 19, and about to start 2nd year at uni.
The usual teen drinking started in 6th form - initially house parties, then pubs/clubs as they all turned 18.
DS doesn't drink any more than his friends as far as I can tell, and generally goes out 1 night per week while at home, probably 2-3 nights when away at uni. So it's not excessive, pretty normal I think for his age. No drugs.

But whilst I know this is normal behaviour, I absolutely hate seeing him drunk. I really hate it. I hate him talking rubbish, being obviously impaired, talking in that loud way drunk people do, sometimes a bit argumentative, also prone to being a bit miserable when very drunk.

Does anyone else feel this way? Because as far as I can see, most of my friends seem to think it's funny when their teens get drunk.

I was the same as a student - lots of drunken nights - but never in front of my parents. And I don't really drink at all now, I'm just not interested in alcohol. So maybe that's why I hate it so much when he gets drunk.

Should I just try and get over myself, or does anyone else feel like this?

Is he a bit of an irritating drunk? I got drunk loads at that age but would either come home well after my parents were in bed or grab water/a packet of biscuits without saying much and just abscond to my room. Certainly wouldn’t have been making it obvious I was pissed unless I needed their help.

i know you don't intend this, but it kind of sounds like you know it's going to happen/is happening, you just don't like seeing it?

Has he never seen you drink?

I hate everyone drunk.

I hate seeing DH drunk. My kids are too young for this yet but I think I’ll hate it too. (I’ve just posted on another thread that my Dad had a problematic relationship with alcohol which is no doubt where my feelings on this stem from…)

Yes that's what I mean. I know teens/young adults go out and get drunk - it's not abnormal. He's out at a party at the moment - a barbecue that started mid afternoon - so I know they'll all be wasted. I know it happens but I hate seeing it.

no, I don't drink. I was mid 30s and started getting bad hangovers, then was pregnant, or breastfeeding, then alone with young kids in a small village - so basically stopped drinking 20 years ago.

I would say that to other people he's not irritating, but I still find it upsetting.

My ghastly confession is this. Part of me looks forward to my DS being old enough to drink because he'll talk to me and laugh with me more with a drink in him. I do absolutely everything humanly possible to make this happen naturally but he just won't and I can't force him.

I’m the same as this. Alcoholic dad. I have been drunk (and irritating) a fair few times (though not for years now), but it still really affects me when my dp is drunk.

my kids are almost there. I expect I’ll feel the same, op.

Honestly, I think anyone drunk is a bit annoying to a sober person. I can completely imagine my (thankfully still very young) children being stupid and tipsy would give me the ick.

This, its not attractive on anyone.

Thinking about it, I have never seen either of my DSs drunk, except for DS2 at the end of the evening do at his wedding, and I didn't realise he was drunk. They're mid 30s, so I don't think it'd worry me.

I've never been drunk in front of my parents and i don't drink now (young kids). I think it would upset me too when my DS comes home drunk one day!

I think all drunk people are a little annoying when you're sober , but also yes you need to get over it.
Unless he's an aggressive drunk then you encourage him to cut down

I honestly don't know why I hate it so much. I don't see people drunk much these days, but when I do, it doesn't bother me. Yes they can be a bit boring and repetitive, but I'm not fussed. But with DS, I actually dread it. It ruins my evening knowing he's going to be coming home wasted.

Oh, that's sad. I've seen this with people so I know what you mean. People can change though. The way I interact with my family has changed after life events.

That's the issue. Drunk people are annoying as fuck, unless you are one.of them!

Yeah - it's more than just annoying though. I think my reaction is disproportionate. I really really hate it, and actually dread it all day if I know he's got a big night out. It's like he's not my son any more when he's drunk, I think that's why I dislike it so much.

I wish I could stop feeling like this. Especially as DS2 is 15 so it's not long before I'll have to start doing it all again for a second time!

I enjoy a drink as much as the next person and I don't like seeing my kids drunk, but I know I am being a hypocrite, so I don't say anything. In fairness, they don't do it that often.

My parents didn't drink at all and at uni, both myself and my youngest sister totally indulged! So one day my mum asked me how many glasses of wine I'd drink on a night out and I lied through my teeth and said "two"! She then asked my sister the same question and she said "three" (also a lie lol!) She got totally berated for drinking more than me!!