Were your teens upset when their grandparents died

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So have been separated for many years and dd and ds didn't really see their paternal grandparents very much. Their paternal grandmother is near the end and dd is taking it very badly. In that anything I say to her she says she can't think about anything except her nan. Like when I asked her to do the dishes this morn she said I was to stop nagging her and that housework wasn't important at this time. I'm kinda surprised she is taking it so badly as she didn't really have a relationship with her and hasn't seen her for a good few years. Obvs am trying to be understanding but am finding it a bit tricky . There's a lot of history with my ex and her and our break up. Anyone else any advice navigating this

I think you sound a bit heartless, in all honesty.

You say they saw each other regularly when she was younger and that this is her first experience with death - it's fairly normal for her to be upset and to be perhaps be wishing they'd spent more time together.

I was never close to my grandparents and never spent any considerable amount of time with them, so wasn't particularly affected by their deaths in any way.

Not grandparents but when i heard my ex had died i told my son his dad had passed away.
My son words were oh well thats sad for some but im not going to morn or make fuss over a man that i never new he has never here so it really dont hurt.
Hes never been to the grave either dont even know where hes buried.
Me on the other hand i smiled when i got the news.

My 18 YO DS dad devastated when my dad recently died. However, DS has never known his own dad and my dad was his main father figure. They were very close- he looked after him lots when he was younger and I worked, took him to loads of hobbies etc. It's been more like losing his own dad than grandad.