Bf keeps calling me lazy

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so I was diagnosed with pcos around three months ago and despite taking folate and iron tablets I am always tired, I could fall asleep the minute I’ve got out of bed and I have no energy to the point it’s been making me have bad thoughts. Last Tuesday I was diagnosed with sleep apnea so now I am waiting for my cpap machine, my boyfriend keeps calling me lazy and saying how I’m lucky to have him as nobody else would want to be with me and it’s really hurting my feelings. I keep telling him once I get my cpap machine I should have more energy and I can get up and take the dog for a wee in the morning but he just says how he’s more tired than I am and how lazy I am (I take the dog out for a walk during the day it’s just in the morning I can’t get out of bed) I feel like I haven’t had any support from him and it seems like recently everything is just falling apart. AIBU for wanting him to be more understanding?

He's a knob. Now imagine to how he would be if you develop a medical condition that there isn't any management for? Sounds like your situation is temporary until the medication works and your sleep apnea is addressed with the cpap. If he can't be empathetic now when things will get better I have no hope for anything else that comes along as you both become older.

He sounds nasty

I'm sorry that you have been so unwell, and I hope you begin to recover soon.

I couldn't stay in a relationship where he's proven that he won't support me when I need it most.

Why are you with such a twat? If he is being so horrible now think how horrible he will be one day if you decide to have a baby with him and you cannot be up and running around the clock the way he think you should be.

The CPAP machine will be a life changer.

I went from falling asleep in team meetings & hettimgvip 3 times in the night for s pee to having a full 6 hour sleep without waking up once. From that day (7 years ago) I have never fallen asleep, or felt tired, before midnight.

He’s not a good partner and you’d be silly to stay with him.

Hearing your boyfriend repeatedly call you "lazy" and downplay your struggles is hurtful, especially when you're vulnerable and could really use his support. Relationships thrive on mutual understanding and care, and when someone invalidates your experiences or dismisses your health issues, it can feel deeply damaging.
Your feelings are valid, and it's okay to want and ask for more support, kindness, and understanding from your partner. If he isn't willing to make an effort to understand what you're going through, or continues to be dismissive of your feelings, that could be a bigger issue that needs to be addressed in your relationship. You deserve to feel cared for, especially during hard times like this.

I think you need to rethink this relationship I'm sorry

Do you both work full time jobs?

Have children?

He sounds like an absolute prick.

When you feel better, use your increased energy to plan your way out. He’s a knob. DH gets frustrated with me sometimes, as I have a chronic illness. But he’d never call me lazy.

Honestly that’s an awful insult and is shorthand for not doing what he wants whenever he wants.

Are you coming back, OP? What’s your situation regarding living-do you both work? Rent/mortgage-whose name is on the property? Can you live independently of him?

anyone who says this he says I’m lucky to have him as nobody else would want to be with me usually turns out to be a control freak. I have seen it before, it's how they keep you in line, with the fear that nobody else will ever want you.

He is showing you zero understanding or compassion.

He is not somebody that you want to build your life with.

This is not a good relationship, or a good man. You are struggling with health issues adn are tired all the time. He's calling you lazy. Wanker.

Do not, whatever you do, have a child with him Please.

You don't need him to be more understanding you need him gone. People who love their partner are kind and supportive and, well, nice. He isn't any of those things us he? Tell him to eff off.