Cheating

[Tilly8875]

I've just been on my husbands iPad to check a holiday and in his search history he's searched match.com with a login. Does this mean he's hes on match? I'm so confused and upset. Thank you 😢

Is the login saved in passwords?

No just says login match.com.login
He's obviously googled it yeah? x

Don't confront him, he will NEVER tell you the full truth.
Do some more digging. Check banking information.
How are things in your marriage, has he ever given you reason to be concerned he has cheated?

I've got all the banking stuff (I think) and it's so strange like I'll do, wear or say something that's quite provocative but he doesn't respond so i say to him, you know if another girl was doing this you'd be all over her!

I’m not saying to dismiss it but has he searched match.com on Google or does it go straight to match.com login? Because if it’s the latter then it could be from clicking on an advert by accident. I’ve done this lots of times and then it opens the webpage for something random.

One search goes to the site the other goes to login. What does that mean?

Is match.com paid for? If it is, you could find out how much the subscription is and see if there’s a corresponding payment in his banking.

You can try logging on on one of your devices. Use his email address and a random password. It may then tell you no account registered to this email, or confirm the email is associated with an account by telling you wrong password.

Can you go into the history and see when it was last searched? It would also show how many pages he went on as they’ll all be listed separately.

You can also create your own account and see if you can find him on there.

Thank you. I don't know anything, he could have a secret email. I have thought about signing up to check. He did get an email a year or so ago saying there was insufficient funds to make a payment for something with a Santander account which I knew nothing about

Create a dummy account and do a search in your area plus a few miles and age range within his age

Sometimes suggestions pop up as you’re typing and I often accidentally press them especially on my phone. It’s really annoying but could your DH have been searching for match as in football and accidentally clicked the suggestion that popped up?

He literally google searched match.com. And again 3 weeks ago. The only thing stopping me from setting a dud account up is, I've got friends on it and surely he'd pop up in their match or at least see him?

Sounds like he's not even trying to hide it. I would just confront him about it and then end it asap.

That's what I wanted you to hear. He clearly doesn't care. Thank you

Unless he has popups and messages, I wouldn't jump to any conclusions yet. In much the same way that you'd consider setting up a dud account to spy on people, he might have done the same.

I did that not long ago out of pure curiosity, god that was depressing! - about 10 people within 50 miles who would have fit my criteria!

Unless he's got the app on his phone, or has similar apps, I'd hang in there. Most people don't cheat using Match because it's a paid subscription, they're more likely to use hookup sites.

Many men change their age or location on dating sites to avoid detection.

I would make a fake account and try to find him first before doing anything else.

The fact that he has google searched it is highly suspicious... that doesn't sound like accidentally clicking on an add to me.

I wonder if they are so spaced out because he usually uses incognito mode but forgot on these occassions

Well there could possibly be an innocent reason for his first Google search - when I read your OP I searched it myself just to see what type of site it actually was.

But the second search would indicate that when he originally went to the site he did actually set up an account.

I think your previous discovery of a bank account you knew nothing about indictates he possibly has some sort of secret life you k now nothing about.

I thought @StormingNorman had some useful suggestions.

💯 agree, I think he uses incognito mood. And there was loads of searches on how to delete searches.

Oh my god, there has been searches for local hookups. I feel a bit shit right now, and stupid

Sorry you’re going through this @Tilly8875 ive no immediate advice or help but just want to let you know people will be along with some support soon. Try and get as much information as you can. Load your gun before you shoot it 💕

Think I'm just worn out with the whole thing. Feel like packing up and leaving

How did everything go, OP? 💐