Should I be hurt over weight comment?

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Hello. I would really appreciate knowing if you think I'm being oversensitive. I was on the phone to my boyfriend earlier and we were talking about music. I happened to mention a particular band that I don't like. I commented that I dislike them so much that if I hear them, "it makes me feel as though my insides are shrivelling up." He replied, "Well, that's one way for you to lose weight" and then chuckled because he thought he was being funny. Now I am paranoid. I have a very difficult time maintaining my weight, and I very easily put weight on. I have recently lost half a stone and have been so pleased about it. I'm 5ft 6 and I weigh ten stone. I've got a belly and there's no disguising it really. I had a previous boyfriend years ago who was so rude about my shape and I am wondering if it's made me paranoid. Equally though I am gutted that my boyfriend today even made this comment when the music comment was completely unrelated to my weight. Now I am wondering what he really thinks of me. Am I being oversensitive? I feel like crying.

You are being oversentitive about your weight as you are NOT overweight and were not before you lost 1/2 stone

I would just ask 'what do you mean by that?' Then hopefully he'd answer without hesitation that it's a joke.
Is your worry or sensitivity about your weight, (that's a healthy BMI by the way although we all carry weight differently), something he is aware of? If so then perhaps it wasn't a joke or it was in bad taste.

I have learnt not to draw attention to something I feel negative about as sometimes people feel that's it's ok to be flippant about it or bring it up themselves. Its not their fault if I've brought it up a lot myself but it can mean they are more 'honest' than is polite or kind.

Negging is a real thing and it can be the start of something less than healthy in a relationship.

It's probably nothing, but it's upset you enough to come on here so it might be worth having a think about any other comments that might have been made in a similar vein.

Take care.