I have an 18 month old. Me and DH have been together for 10 years. Since my DS has been born I've noticed myself getting more annoyed with DH.
He's never been the cleanest person to live with, I'm not perfect either but the last year it's just been grating on me more and more. He constantly leaves clothes around the house and only moves them if I tell him to or if I do it myself. I never know what needs washing and what doesn't or I'll just put a load of washing on and then find a pile of his clothes that could have gone in the wash too. I've told him time and time again about this.
If he washes the dishes he hardly does it right, misses bits of food so the dishes don't even feel clean, doesn't clean the sink or the worktops either so feels like a half arsed job.
With my DS it's just as bad, I feel like he's just half arsed with everything. He's always forgetting to brush DS teeth and I have to remind him/ask him every time if he's the one who's gotten up with him on a morning. I have to tell him basic things like taking his vest off that he's slept in before getting him dressed instead of just putting his clothes on over the vest.
DH would happily let DS sit in front of the tv all day so he can relax and gets annoyed when I ask him to turn the tv off.
He hardly ever plays with DS and usually just sticks the tv on for him or sits on his phone while DS plays.
I just feel like everything he does with DS is half arsed and I'm sick of feeling like I have half a parent for a partner.
AIBU go feel this way?