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Does this sound like a mutual attraction?

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arabelle97 · 22/08/2024 19:31

So basically I have had issues with my neighbours for some time now.

Neighbour would just come onto the property and wonder round as if it was his own home.
Boundary disputes.
Threatening behaviour etc.
These are pensioners by the way.

Anyway I have had to call the police a few times due to the harassing behaviour from the neighbours.
It is the same police officer who comes each time.
Last couple of occasions he has even come alone and has given me his work mobile number in case I have any problems.

Lately the neighbours have been kicking of about a boundary dispute and the police are still involved and the officer is due to come round next Monday to sort this out by coming round to mine first and then the neighbours.

My ex who I live with (he is gay, I am a woman) is convinced that the officer has a thing for me as the police officer has told him how he thinks I am beautiful and how much of a nice person he thinks I am.

The officer has been around at least once a month now for the past year and at Christmas he even came round to pick up a card from us both.
I really like the officer and I am defo attracted to him and he has always come round asap when there has been a problem.

My ex believes that I should tell him how I feel .
But wouldn't that be against the police standards?

I don't get any sleazy vibes from him at all, intact he is really shy and goes red a lot when I talk to him.

The neighbours did mention about selling up and the officer mentioned to me in passing how it wasn't even on the market as he had been looking on Rightmove, which I found odd at the time but my ex believes that he even Googles me in his spare time.

Does it sound like a mutual attraction and shall I tell him how I feel?

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YerArseInParsley · 22/08/2024 19:45

You could start off by asking about his plans for the weekend and take the conversation from there. Be a bit flirty but not too much and see how he reacts. You may feel mortified if he doesn't see you in that way but it sounds like he does like you.

And we all look up people on FB, don't we?

Nobodyknowsitall5 · 22/08/2024 19:57

The officer will end up in the shit if he pursues things with you

arabelle97 · 22/08/2024 20:03

Nobodyknowsitall5 · 22/08/2024 19:57

The officer will end up in the shit if he pursues things with you

Yeah that's what I thought as well.
He said to me last week "I can't keep doing this".
I didn't know how to respond,

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YerArseInParsley · 22/08/2024 20:30

arabelle97 · 22/08/2024 20:03

Yeah that's what I thought as well.
He said to me last week "I can't keep doing this".
I didn't know how to respond,

Doing what? What is he doing that he says he can't keep doing?

You don't need to ask him out but if you happened to be at the same place at the same time as him and yous got chatting...

5128gap · 22/08/2024 20:38

Sorry OP, it doesn't matter how beautiful he thinks you are, he has absolutely no business telling a potential victim of crime he is there to protect and serve that. Just imagine if you didn't find the guy attractive? How uncomfortable would it feel to have him breech boundaries like that? He is not being a good police officer at best, and at worst the right move thing suggests he could be a bit weird and creepy. Ot would make me wonder what else he might be looking up from personal interest. Personally I'd keep this on professional lines as he doesn't sound the best.

YerArseInParsley · 22/08/2024 20:51

5128gap · 22/08/2024 20:38

Sorry OP, it doesn't matter how beautiful he thinks you are, he has absolutely no business telling a potential victim of crime he is there to protect and serve that. Just imagine if you didn't find the guy attractive? How uncomfortable would it feel to have him breech boundaries like that? He is not being a good police officer at best, and at worst the right move thing suggests he could be a bit weird and creepy. Ot would make me wonder what else he might be looking up from personal interest. Personally I'd keep this on professional lines as he doesn't sound the best.

@5128gap
Actually, after reading your comment I agree.

arabelle97 · 23/08/2024 09:08

He meant he couldn't keep coming down all the time especially for non police related matters such as boundary disputes.

Yeah I can see how it looks especially the Rightmove thing but I do find him very sweet and a nice person.

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