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Should I withdraw application for senior post out of guilt?

29 replies

Millannie · 22/08/2024 13:32

Sorry for the novel….

I have been in my current post for about 9 months. It’s similar to the role I had before I took a career break for my kids, but is a lower band than I was on 10 years ago. I took the job as a shoe-in to the same org I worked in previously, but actually really enjoy my job, and the flexibility is amazing.
I was taken on as temporary, but was told that my post would be rebanded and made permanent once they had established exactly what the post holder would need / be able to do.
2 weeks ago a colleague sent me a link to a senior post (5 bands above my current, but similar to what I have done in the past) that was being advertised in another team. This is a temporary, 12 month post. The closing date was the next day, so I quickly put together an application, and to my surprise I have been invited to interview next week.
My dilemma is that my current boss then excitedly told me this week that my post has been rebanded (to the same as I was on 10 years ago), and will be made permanent.
I really enjoy my current post, but feel that I am capable, and have the experience, to do much more.
I get on really well with my boss, and the rest of my team, and I really feel like I’d be letting her down if I took the new job, especially after she has got my current post put up a band. Part of me thinks I should withdraw my application and stick with the permanent post, rather than risk it with the higher band temporary post. Especially as my current boss is really great at giving me time to build my skills and knowledge, and work towards qualifications that could help me get an even better role in a couple of years time.
There is a real chance that my current boss will see me if I attend the interview, so I’m worried that if she sees me interviewing she might not be so happy to give me the permanent role, if I don’t get the new temp post, as she’ll be worried that I’m looking to leave the post as soon as another higher banded post comes up.
My DH thinks I’d be crazy not to go for it (it would add about £15k to my salary).
So, AIBU to withdraw my application out of guilt and fear of another temporary post?
TIA

OP posts:
GoodSummerDays · 22/08/2024 13:36

You tell your current boss that this new potential role is a significant increase in salary. No one will hold that against you, it makes perfect sense that you'd go for it.
If you don't get it then it sounds like you'll be happy in your newly banded permanent position, so either way it's great!

Jellycatspyjamas · 22/08/2024 13:36

If you go for the senior post in a years time you’ll have experience under your belt and have been working for a higher salary, which puts you in a good position to apply for posts at that level or higher. While it’s great your boss has secured your current role, the reality is the organisation would let you go tomorrow if they needed to. Do what is best for you.

JaydeeeeP · 22/08/2024 13:36

I'm surprised your boss doesn't know you've applied, anywhere I've worked we would have told our boss we were applying for internal roles, just out of respect.

stonebrambleboy · 22/08/2024 13:37

I'd take the permanent job. If you take the temporary promotion you may be out of work in a year.

ThreeFeetTall · 22/08/2024 13:39

A man would never think like that! Go for the better job!

Tbskejue · 22/08/2024 13:45

Absolutely not! It’s work, not personal. Your current boss will get over it.

AlisonDonut · 22/08/2024 13:47

Presumably you would be seconded over to the other job and then come back to your permanent one?

stonebrambleboy · 22/08/2024 13:51

ThreeFeetTall · 22/08/2024 13:39

A man would never think like that! Go for the better job!

That's true, as OP said her DH has encouraged her to apply for the promotion. I'm just saying I wouldn't in her shoes.

Handsfullofholes · 22/08/2024 13:53

Do it.

patchworkbear · 22/08/2024 13:54

I'd be a professional and tell your boss what's happened and why but that in light of recent information that she's shared with you, you'd like to stay where you are. That way there's no information that might trip you up later.

GFB · 22/08/2024 13:54

As above, ask if you can do the 12 month role as a secondment if successful

BrownBirdWelcomesWhiteWave · 22/08/2024 13:55

JaydeeeeP · 22/08/2024 13:36

I'm surprised your boss doesn't know you've applied, anywhere I've worked we would have told our boss we were applying for internal roles, just out of respect.

We had to inform our managers if we applied for internal roles - not a respect thing at all. I disagree with it completely

KarmenPQZ · 22/08/2024 13:56

Tell you boss something along the lines of this….
‘thanks for securing thr current role reband - you’re super happy with it. However you did see a role advertised that would be an exciting leap forward in your career that was too good to not apply for. You’ve been asked for an interview which will be a great experience in itself and you want to see how far you get. ‘

if your boss is a great boss they should be championing your career and will be pleased for you either way. They also benefit from having a higher band if they need to recruit your role they’ll be able to secure a better candidate than a lower band so win win.

BrownBirdWelcomesWhiteWave · 22/08/2024 13:57

KarmenPQZ · 22/08/2024 13:56

Tell you boss something along the lines of this….
‘thanks for securing thr current role reband - you’re super happy with it. However you did see a role advertised that would be an exciting leap forward in your career that was too good to not apply for. You’ve been asked for an interview which will be a great experience in itself and you want to see how far you get. ‘

if your boss is a great boss they should be championing your career and will be pleased for you either way. They also benefit from having a higher band if they need to recruit your role they’ll be able to secure a better candidate than a lower band so win win.

this is spot on and perfect

Topseyt123 · 22/08/2024 14:01

I'd take the permanent role. I just wouldn't want the insecurity of worrying about potentially being out of work in a year.

JaydeeeeP · 22/08/2024 14:12

BrownBirdWelcomesWhiteWave · 22/08/2024 13:55

We had to inform our managers if we applied for internal roles - not a respect thing at all. I disagree with it completely

Why do you think you had to inform your manager?

Elphame · 22/08/2024 14:14

JaydeeeeP · 22/08/2024 13:36

I'm surprised your boss doesn't know you've applied, anywhere I've worked we would have told our boss we were applying for internal roles, just out of respect.

And this may be why the current post has suddenly just been upgraded!

JaydeeeeP · 22/08/2024 14:23

Elphame · 22/08/2024 14:14

And this may be why the current post has suddenly just been upgraded!

Yeah I thought this too

BrownBirdWelcomesWhiteWave · 22/08/2024 14:27

JaydeeeeP · 22/08/2024 14:12

Why do you think you had to inform your manager?

Because it was company policy that if you applied for an internal role you had to inform your manager

JaydeeeeP · 22/08/2024 14:39

BrownBirdWelcomesWhiteWave · 22/08/2024 14:27

Because it was company policy that if you applied for an internal role you had to inform your manager

Because its respectful to your boss to keep them in the loop of what is happening, so that another manager doesn't come and approach your boss and say oh BrownBird sent me her CV did she tell you? You know, respectful. Regardless of whether its compulsory.

nodogz · 22/08/2024 14:42

Just interview for the other role safe in the knowledge you have a perm role in your pocket.

BrownBirdWelcomesWhiteWave · 22/08/2024 14:55

JaydeeeeP · 22/08/2024 14:39

Because its respectful to your boss to keep them in the loop of what is happening, so that another manager doesn't come and approach your boss and say oh BrownBird sent me her CV did she tell you? You know, respectful. Regardless of whether its compulsory.

No i disagree its respectful - what if I am moving because I have a bad manager? I had a large number of internal interviews at one company, and was unable to move - because my old manager was a spiteful person and didnt want me to do well.

The hiring manager should keep it confidential (as an external one would)

EDIT
would you tell your current job about any exernal interviews you were attending?

JaydeeeeP · 22/08/2024 14:59

@BrownBirdWelcomesWhiteWave external is totally different, the 2 managers are never going to bump into one another in the staff room. Anyway, this is not what the thread is about and us debating on whether it's respectful or not is completely irrelevant to what the OP has asked. I just commented I was surprised her boss didn't know as most places its policy to inform of internal interest.

HelpmyDCbecomefinanciallysavvy · 22/08/2024 15:07

If it is NHS go for the interview for the experience. However, a job you enjoy is not to be let go of lightly especially if it is NHS as you could end up in a much worse off position, crap boss and crap team. No harm in trying and see how you do but it’s not an easy decision either.

Staunchlystarling · 22/08/2024 15:12

The answer to this is honesty, tell your boss. Explain what you’ve explained here.

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