To go or not?!

[Boymum93]

Hi everyone - mum guilt has consumed me this morning and would just like another opinion. I’ve just come back from a lovely sunny family holiday with my 2 dc (4 and 8) however they are now due to go stay with their dad for a week (divorced) and he has mentioned he is taking them somewhere UK based (all fine). However a friend has now invited me on a holiday for 5 days in a sunny destination 3/4 hours away. I mentioned this to a family member who was outraged and can’t believe I’ve considered going away without them - she said what if something happens and you’re that far away? Wont you miss them? Im now second guessing if I should be going and feel bad for even considering. I’m a single mum and a break would be nice - AIBU?

Exactly what I was going to say, @Boymum93, but the wise @mamajong beat me to it.

As the saying goes, you can’t pour from an empty jug - so go and get yours refilled.

As another poster said, your family member is ridiculous.

Your kids are with a parent, their father. Go and enjoy a few days break.

She up set because she`s not going.
Go pack op have a good time if your single go have a reallllllyyy good time.
Its girls time sun sea sand and ice cream 😉

Your family member is being ridiculous. It's perfectly fine for you to have a break when your kids are on holiday with their dad. They're safe with him and will have a lovely time - you don't need to be on standby in case 'something happens'. They have two parents and one of them is caring for them. You can feel free to enjoy a few days in the sun.

I bet your family member wouldn't even bat an eyelid if your kids' dad went away abroad for a few days while the kids were with you.

Ditto every poster before me

GO GO GO

And enjoy ☺️

Another vote to go. Mine are away with their dad and I had visions of being able to clean and declutter round starting a new job- instead I'm moping about. Go forth and enjoy!

All of this

There aren't any prizes for not going on holiday without your child. and definitely no prizes for mum guilt, believe me, I've checked.

Go!! and make sure you post us some lovely holiday pics.

It’s all well and good everyone jumping on the bandwagon and saying go. But in terms of practicalities - money and annual leave. Will this leave your children short?

The arguments by your family member are silly - you’ll miss them from wherever you are, and their dad presumably is capable. But there’s no way I’d use 5 days leave to go away without my children.

Gooooo!!!!

I take my son away every year, and I go away myself every year. Absolutely nothing to feel guilty about.

Start packing those bags!

As a single Mum, I would absolutely use 5 days leave to go away with my child. I take them away every year as well, but I also need an adults breaks.

Couples with children go away together on their own, why shouldn't single Mom's?

I ignore such people.

They either very traditional and don’t think the dad can parent, someone who overly worries to the point of limiting themselves, or envious you have the opportunity and they don’t.

Go!

I’d love a solo trip and hope I can take one in a few months because I haven’t had a solo trip in almost 2 years and can count on one hand I’ve been alone for longer than an hour since D3 was born almost a year ago.

@Boymum93 go, & have a fabulous time

@WhyArePiratesCalledPiratessss are you at child free resort, would you recommend it? Enjoy your holiday too

Stay at home and risk falling down the stairs, drowning in the bath, murdered by the milkman or run over by a bus as you venture outside.

Your relative is being ridiculous.

Go and enjoy yourself.

Ignore the family member and get packing! I had 4 nights in Ibiza when my DD was 1 and had the time of my life, we all need a break!

I wouldn’t use 5 days leave to go away without my children whether I was married or a single mum.

I’m not saying OP shouldn’t do it because shes a single mum. I’m pointing out that it’s a lot of leave to take, which may leave her short. She should do what she wants, having considered her situation and the facts

@Rosebud21
It's wasn't child free but it has an adults only pool which was super chilled and lovely.
The 6 nights/ 7 days was only 660 quid which, for school holidays was an absolute bargain.

Tui. Senior Haiti in majorca.

Food was just about ok. Didn't starve but didn't set the world alight either.

Oh my god go! Go go go!!

I would have loved to have been able to do that.

Go!

@saoirse31

you can just go back & select the other option ( as many times as you like!!)

but obviously not now, only until the voting closes

@watchuswreckthemic

ah ah! NO moping allowed. Do things you can't do when they're home with you, spontaneously go out! You probably remember being able to do this! It doesn't matter where or who you ask if they want to join you, just enjoy the spontenaity!

Drink wine, eat crisps, read a book(in peace), have a long bath, whatever the kids make difficult or just unenjoyable.

stay over at a friends alone & without packing stuff up for everyone. Clean pair of knicks in your bag & GO.

Maybe go on a date?

really if you MUST - get some things done that are 500times harder when they're home.

whatever, but do NOT mope! You don't have to be unhappy to prove you love them!!