Secret eating

[Buttondrawer]

Curious how common this is? I go into the office about once a week and almost always get a secret unhealthy snack for the train home. My dh and I try to eat healthily most of the time, but we're not crazily strict. I think there's something about the freedom of a treat that only I know about. Is this messed up or totally normal 😁? It's definitely gluttonous, because I get home to a meal he's made, but I do always manage to finish that too... 🙈

People are taking this way too seriously 😂

OP, I completely relate. Something about unwinding and having a treat you don't have to share and don't have to worry about getting one for someone else.

I think a lot of women do this as it's a form of "selfish" self care that we can do cheaply and easily.
A little dopamine hit!

There's nothing wrong with it at all unless you think you have disordered eating or it's affecting your health.

I honestly don't get this. Whether I say what I have or not, if I don't want to share or get something for someone or whatever. I just don't. Because I am allowed a treat/snack. I don't have to justify myself or excuse it or feel guilt for not doing x,y or z too. It's not that deep. Hell, I have treats in the house with everyone around and still don't.

Don't see a problem with a small treat on the way home giving you something to look forward too. What would your DH's reaction be if he knew? I have secret snacks in my bedside cupboard but DH is aware of them. Essentially if they were in his face in the kitchen he would probably eat them within a day but he can't be bothered hunting.

I live alone, who would I be keep a snack secret from?

I don't think it's weird, as long as you feel positive in yourself about it. I've done the same. Just knowing I'm acting and doing it for me and only me without any need for validation or having to explain to anyone.

What's the snack already!??!?

Sometimes I drive to mcdonalds for a cheeky big mac. I don't bring one back for dp

I've got no problem with this whatsoever - a little naughty treat when you're on your own on the train. A little indulgence once in a while is good for the soul. I always get myself a hot chocolate or some chocolate buttons for the train home.

Dammit I never even thought to do this when I was commuting to work. Missed out.

Ffs a secret snack on the way home? Not like you're drinking a bottle of vodka. Is this the world of problems on MN?

Huh? So you buy food to eat on the train, that’s normal?! I don’t tell my husband when I eat - that’s mental 🤣 I have no idea what he does and it’s not my business

I do this fairly frequently. Also hide the wrappers under other stuff in the bin so I don’t get ‘caught’. It’s not really ‘secret’ snacking as much as not sharing the minutiae of your day or having to ask partner if they want a treat too and what treat and save it for after dinner to enjoy tgether or eat before seperatly blah blah blah. I think it is about retaining some independence and autonomy in a relationship.

there’s been several MN threads on it which I always read with interest and it’s always split enough with some people thinking it’s totally bonkers and very unhealthy for your relationship with food and partner. And also many people also do it and have a happy relationship with both

These responses are wild. Talk about draining the fun.

I secret eat. I do it aaallllll the time so it's not that much of a secret because I'm not losing weight.

If it goes from guilty pleasure to eating disorder, speak to someone.

Woman buys chocolate bar for the train home.
what exactly is the issue???? I know MN is uptight but wow!
doing a line of coke or necking a bottle of vodka is weird but not having a snack on your commute home.

A secret snack on the train once a week. A secret from whom exactly?

I’m referring this to the MI5.

This is one of the weirdest posts I've ever read on Mumsnet, and that bar was already set pretty high.

Since when is eating some food without broadcasting it to the world a 'secret', or worse 'naughty'? 'Gluttonous', ffs - have we travelled back in time a few decades?

Wouldn't true independence and autonomy be eating whatever, without the extra thoughts or work or hiding?

Yeah it's messed up.

You're just an adult having a snack, like millions of adults do every day.

Why wouldn't your DP approve?

Calling food "naughty" is also weird.

Ha ha, cos I’m scoffing without him!!

I now have an image of the OP sitting on the train, tucking into an entire medieval banquet, with a whole roast pig as the centrepiece. I like it.