Copycat neighbour/ friend

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Hi I don’t know if this is normal but it’s starting to feel abit weird so wanting others opinions, we moved into a new build housing estate a couple of few ago so did everyone else on the street as it opened same time , not many talk but am loose friends with a lady down the road she wanted to add on fbook so did , since then we’ve been round each others house a couple of times for a chat and cuppa etc. so loose friends not besties .

Anyway it soon started that she said she liked my kitchen stuff kettle tea coffee holder etc , I was like thank you didn’t think much of it but then a few weeks later she’s showing off on fb that she got it all matching too and kettle etc . Then she wanted me to get her hubby a job at my partners place of work which I said he needs to apply like every one else ( he did but didn’t get the job ) thought it would stop there but then she’s asked if she can take photos of my stuff to show her hubby i reluctantly agreed so now she has the same tv unit same garden gazebo etc , even painted her kitchen the same as mine. i took my family to a zoo an over an hour away a week ago posted pics online then yesterday she’s gone to the same zoo and posted pics . ( plenty of zoos are nearer )

Anything me and my partner does or buys she does a week later . Just unsure if I am wrong to feel bothered by this or just try to ignore it .

I know I don’t own the zoo or things but is it normal to copy to this extent. Also just to add she told me herself she hates if someone dresses up the same as her on Halloween or has the same top from primark ( I don’t shop there but apparently someone she knows bought the same friends top as her and she didn’t like it )

crazy huh

I'm a victim of this.. Its not harmless. My SIL has a habit of doing this. Examples: we buy a car, they buy a car (month later)... We change our oven, they change there's (within 2 days!) I start a business, she starts the same business!, I got my hair dip dyed and 1 week later she has exactly the same hair style! We start a hobby and suddenly she starts a similar hobby... Its drives me absolutely crazy! I limit what she knows and family members unfortunately which has helped

Has she asked you what your favourite song is? You could say "Me and My Shadow" 😀

You can set up Facebook so it only shows to certain people. Set it up so only she can see, then start with the posting:

Just ordered a brand new tesla, huge TV, top of the range hot tub etc - see how dedicated to keeping up she really is! 😂

Op, I'm sure it's very weird, but I am almost certain it's because this woman admires you and is a bit envious of you in some way. "Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery that mediocrity can pay to greatness" is the full quote, and I am definitely not saying this woman is mediocre in any way, but I bet she feels she is. I think it makes her feel good to have the things you have.

I have this with a friend. It's got to the point where I actually lie about where things are from, or what colour the wall is painted etc. It's 100% flattery, I get that, but it's freakin annoying when you buy a new dress, love it, and then bam a week later she's got the same and a mutual friend says to you - oh you've bought the same dress as X. Erm, no. She copied me!

I did have fun for a few weeks posting things I"ve bought/done etc that I actually hadn't, just to see what she did with it.

My mum also went through this back in the 80's. Most memorable moment was the lady in question bought the exact same settee and chairs as my mum - they were very distinctive. No way was it accidental. It actually really upset my mum because this was in the days before the internet so she'd literally gone out of her way to drive 70 miles to a small independent to copy my mum.

Use an AI image generator to create a really wacky decoration in your house like rainbow stripes as a feature wall and post it online and see if she copies it.

if she does then ask her why.

Thanks all for replies so far, so yes I’ve limited contact for a while now and I do not post on social media regularly at all just if we go out for a day trip I’d post a few pics next day , anyway I’ve not posted anything since the zoo trip she went like a week later since then I’ve not posted anything as getting ready to go back to school , she did message me a few days ago but I’m just keeping it minimal right now as she’s abit full on and just wants to come round again prob to be nosy on if I’ve bought anything new over summer. I do like the idea of saying got a brand new massive tv etc but I’m unsure it’s a bit mean but it would be interesting to see if she copied everything. I am actually buying a super king bed soon as we want to upgrade our double we’ve had for ages it’s not cheap so I’ll see if she copies that lol . My partner thinks it’s border on stalkerish especially when she wanted him to get her partner a job at his place , thank god he didn’t get the job or I reckon it would have gotten worse .

I wouldnt tell her where youve got something at all.

Imitation is a form of flattery.

she obviously looks up to you, likes your style and thinks you live a good life!