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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To block him after this?

30 replies

bwa · 20/08/2024 19:34

Guy I've known in and off for years. Never romantic but he's made it clear he wants me. I know it's for sex. He's never made any intonation that he's looking for a relationship.

We have met up numerous times for drinks. He's been to mine and vice versa. It's not often thought. We go for months without speaking.
He's been very flaky in the past. Agreeing earlier in the week to meet say on a Thursday evening but come Thursday I don't hear a peep from him. I'm never that bothered as like I say we are just casual mates.

Anyway today. 8am he asked if I wanted to meet him after work. I said sure and that I'll be done at 5.30. I said I could be at the station for six and would be pick me up. He drives I don't. He replied with a thumbs up.
Leading up to six I told him I was near the station. He read it, no reply. Then just as I was about to get on the train I rang him to double check he was coming. It is just one stop to where I was meeting him. He didn't answer. It was a WhatsApp call and I could see him online. I left it another ten minutes and asked if he was ok to meet me otherwise I was going home. I just stay on the same train to go home as it's a few stops further. Still no reply and can see him online.

So I got off the train at 6.30 and blocked him. He clearly wasn't coming and I really couldn't be arsed to hear his shit.
My mum thinks I was too hasty. But we had made this plan way earlier in the day. He was the one who invited me and I told him I couldn't be out late I work very early in the morning.

So AIBU?

OP posts:
IfOnlyTheyWent · 20/08/2024 21:08

You did the right thing blocking him. He sounds dreadful. Was he out until the morning and then sent you a message?

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 20/08/2024 21:11

bwa · 20/08/2024 21:01

Thank you for this. It's a great response which I should show my mum!

Absolutely show your mum! Just saw your update he's 40. Good grief.

Can almost forgive early 20s because their brains haven't fully developed. IME by late 20s they are quite responsive to a 3 strike rule though 🤣

Your mum should be proud that you have raised the bar to expect better treatment.

bwa · 20/08/2024 21:18

IfOnlyTheyWent · 20/08/2024 21:08

You did the right thing blocking him. He sounds dreadful. Was he out until the morning and then sent you a message?

I hadn't considered this! I don't really think so as he also starts work early so will usually send messages early.

OP posts:
bwa · 20/08/2024 21:26

@FoxtrotOscarKindaDay 😂 honestly this is exactly the kind of shit I was used to in my 20's.
He's not grown up at all.
I have suspicious that he has 'turkey teeth' too as they were unnaturally, gleamingly white the last time I saw him! I'm not trying to insult him. Just stating that it seems he's clinging on to his youth and still thinks it's becoming to act like a young buck 😆

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ILikeItWhatIsIt · 21/08/2024 08:37

People who do this, I'd love to know what their thought process is. Unbelievable.

Him, not you, OP!

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