Would I be unreasonable to not pack clothes/shoes/swimwear etc for my son to go on holiday with his dad?
Backstory - His dad took him on holiday a few years ago, made a big deal of texting and asking what he would need and telling me he'd bought our son new clothes for the holiday. At the time he was not giving me any money towards providing for our son.
Didn't tell me where he was taking him until the day before.
I only packed my son's comfort items and some stuff to keep him entertained on the journey thinking that'd be all he needed.
Resulted in him shouting at me on my doorstep and a morning of verbally abusive messages.
Last year he again took my son on holiday, this time telling me where they were going as soon as he asked about dates. This time his dad was giving me money pretty consistently. I packed a week's + worth of clothes and other bits he'd need.
Roll on this year, his dad has told me he is taking our son on holiday. Hasn't told me, or our son, where he is taking him. Hasn't given me any money for about a year.
Would I be unreasonable to not pack anything apart from maybe a few outfits?
I don't fancy doing all the dirty laundry again when he gets home, I don't feel like I should have to.
But I'm torn between thinking 'f* it why should i' and realising I'm probably being petty and stupid and I should just shut up and do it for my son.
So...? What do I do? And if you think I shouldn't be packing for the week for him how do I put this in to a text that doesn't result in abuse or emotional blackmail?