Is jinxed a thing? Or woo woo nonsense?

[Sparklybutold]

I can't sleep.

The past few months I'm starting to believe my life is jinxed. Can't state what the examples are as it could be outing, but even those closest to me acknowledge the shit cards I've been dealt.

What's people thoughts on this? Is jinxing real or nonsense?

At my worst, I can feel myself becoming neurotic with it where the idea that the only way of breaking the curse is for me to die, that this will protect my kids, will stop the curse. On one side I acknowledge this is BS, but another part of me agrees with it and I find I am fighting off the end of life rumination's. I am seeking counselling, as I have throughout my life, but the facts remain, and the cards dealt are shite.

I don't believe in curses, jinxes and so on, or anything else "woo".

Sometimes shit things happen to people, and sometimes a whole load of shit things happen in short order. It's often not just anything more than unhappy coincidence.

Human brains tend to see patterns in things which simply are not there, which is why some people tend toward interpreting signs and meanings in everyday, mundane events.

There aren't any jinxes, djinns, curses or demons, but life isn't fair. I'm sorry you've hit a bad patch and, yes, it can feel like shit will rain upon you for ever more! As you know in your 'thinking' head, though, the only sure thing in life is change. This patch will pass.

Were you to off yourself now, that WOULD curse your kids, in that they'd be shunted into strange situations with no way to understand their grief; they'd feel abandoned, bewildered and guilty which would colour their experience growing up. I know you know this, I'm just reminding you!

Good for you with the counselling 🏅 Remember this will pass 🌻 Keep an eye open for the nice things and the helpful people, say something kind to yourself, watch something funny. All the best.

I don't know if I believe in that sort of thing or not, but wouldn't it require someone to actually put a jinx on you? Why would anyone do that? Are your friends independently seeing your bad luck and commenting? Can you give us just one example of your bad luck? Maybe with a couple small details changed?

I believe that everyone can have a run of bad luck but as we focus on the bad stuff in life and spend time trying to fix it or stop it happening again we end up blocking out the good so it seems everything is against us - but it isn't true, the good is still there

The reason that it's tempting to believe in jinxes and suchlike is because human nature means we always focus on runs of bad luck but never acknowledge runs of equally good luck in life - we tend to attribute good things to our own skill, abilities, good decision making etc when most of it is also brute luck.

I'm sorry you're going through such a shitty time OP. Please don't do anything stupid. There is no curse to break, it's just dumb bad luck. Stay for the next time things are going well. And please seek some good support through therapy- it will be money very well spent

Logically I don't believe in curses and jinxes.
However some years ago when I was on holiday I was actually cursed by a woman fortune teller outside a tourist attraction because I wouldn't give her money. It was very frightening. She followed me down the street shrieking at me.
I had a string of absolutely horrendous things happen to me in the years following this incident and I've always half jokingly said I really was cursed.
I know it's nonsense but the connection still plays about in my mind.

Don't worry too much about what other people say. Sometimes friends comment to me that they've had so much bad luck, and I comfort them and agree. Often though I don't think that they are experiencing anything particularly unusual, in some cases I think they are luckier than most. They might be upset about losing a job, that's better than any job I've had. What they think is a curse is just everyday life for others! But of course I wouldn't be mean and say that when they are feeling down.

Agree with others, no such thing. BUT, even if you don't believe it on a conscious level you but subconsciously you could be searching for negativity and ignoring anything positive that happens as a 'fluke'. One thing is for sure, you killing yourself will fuck up your children's lives. 100%.

If something shit happens, usually something else does! It does seem like there’s always a string of things. However, if you’re bumbling along doing fine and one thing happens you can shrug it off, if when something happens on top of something else you’re too low to cope as well. Hence the seeing patterns.

Your death would be the worst thing for your children, don’t even go there.

You’ll get over this and life will be ok again,

Society normalises happiness, the truth is life is more like a rollercoaster at times and it can be bad, that’s normal. It’s just our expectations think it’s wrong. You’ll come out the other side.

Try to find literally anything good to focus on however small, that’s helped me during bad times.

Every single one of us will be able to tell you about a point of our lives where everything bad happened to us all at once and kept happening all the time and we thought it would never be different. It isn’t always like this. You will find yourself again.

in 2012 I held my mums hand while she died. Two weeks later I found out my dog who was all I had left had cancer and had to let her go. Then I lost my home. Then I got £17k in debt. It was relentless. I didn’t think I could go on with all the bad luck.

life did get better. For years now I’ve been at a point where good things keep happening instead and have had happiness for years. Your time will come x

Confirmation bias - you will notice negative things more and use each one to bolster the perception that you’re jinxed.

Everyone has difficult times in their lives. I’m sorry yours is grinding you down. It’s not a curse or a jinx, it’s just life.

I hope things pick up for you soon.

1 have been fighting for a normal life since I was 9 and now I'm 67. I've lived through sex abuse. Forced abortion, 2 lots of cancer, one of which is incurable and has had a huge effect on my immune system. Bullying, dislike, 4 other bad diagnosis, operation on my only GOOD eye which has left me with blurred vision and a brain hemorrhage that has left me unable to walk or talk properly (I fall every single day and am scarred witless that I will end up on a trolley in a & e) it has also robbed me of all my hobbies and my right side - I used to be right handed too....I won't ever recover from this as it was in my cerebellum. Now have to face a recall from a mammogram!!! So though I have no answers for you I do understand how you feel op

There is no such thing as jinxes

I would speak to a Catholic priest asap. They have ways of breaking jinxes. The head helped my DH. I willpray for you.

I think you are having a run of bad luck and when you are low and vulnerable it is natural to feel that something/someone/everything is against you. You will only see the bad and no good in life (understandably).

Please get all the support you can either medical, emotional or spiritual if you can. Spend time in nature, with family and friends and please, please don't think about ending things. If there is a pull to do so get medical help immediately.. losing a parent to suicide will cause more harm to your children than any perceived curse.

Do you have someone toxic in your life that you think wishes you ill will? I don't believe that they can cause you harm with a curse, but I do believe that they can cause damage just by being toxic.

OP, if you really believe this I think you should go to your GP and tell them about it. There's no such thing as jinxes or anything like that and if this is causing you distress, you need mh support. You are probably struggling to process the bad experiences you've had.